Some people say that we shouldn't give 100% of our selves when we love. You have to save some for yourself. Personally, I don't beleive in this. If you save some for yourself, that means you don't trust the person. If you don't trust the person, how can you say that you love her... What do you think?
2007-02-07 16:49:55 · 10 answers · asked by raiden 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
...Loving yourself is a given... You can love yourself 100% and love another 100%
2007-02-07 18:22:00 · update #1
i think you should love 100% to anybody...not just your mate. if everone could do this...the world would be a much better place. if you love everyone unconditionaly, then you can love yourself just the same
2007-02-07 16:54:01 · answer #1 · answered by kristina43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you must also love yourself. If one cannot love themself they cannot love another. If you do not save some for yourself, you will not take the proper care you need to be around others.
If I cannot take care of myself, how do I know how to take care of another? If I do not give to myself, how do I know what to give to another? If I cannot feed myself, how do I know how to feed another? I need energy for myself to give that energy to others.
I do not want a servant, I want someone to be my partner.
One who I trust to go off by herself and do what she wants whenever she decides she needs to. One who does not need to obtain permission to leave the house. just go. One who takes my trust with her.
I already have this person. I have been married for over 26 years. She and I do not have 100% interest in the same things. I do not want her to be beside me when I am in my workshop making stuff. She cannot stand the sound of my saws. I cannot stand the sound of her vacuum. So I build stuff while she vacuums.
I am the type of person who believes one lives by example. She has to go to a church. I do not believe the church is a building it is an attitude, a way of live. She and I respect the others beliefs and leave it at that. I trust her. She trusts me. We expect the other to do what that person feels is the right thing. We do not staulk each other. That is wasted energy. If I did not give her 100% of my trust, I could not live with her. I expect the same from her.
Love is living life doing no harm to the other and doing what is best for the other.
If you do not trust the other, you are not in love. If you expect the other to give you 100%, you are not in love. If you expect 0% from the other and can trust her/him, you might be in love.
2007-02-08 01:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. Actually, I think it is a refreshing perspective. It gave me a different way to think about today. A few hours ago, my friend said he loves me. Granted, I consider him my best friend, but I had no idea what to say. I am still a little bit uncomfortable with him because I think that we secretly have romantic feelings for each other, but neither of us will let the other know that. Therefore, I am not giving 100% of myself.
2007-02-08 01:01:49 · answer #3 · answered by bisous148 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is true trust is the number 1 priority in a relationship with out it you don't have nothing.
2007-02-08 00:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by southern 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree to loving someone 100% and that applies to everything else!
2007-02-08 01:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by ********* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is wanting the other person to be happy. How do you assign a numerical value on it?
2007-02-08 00:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you give %100 trust, you are digging your grave. Once she disappoints you, you'll commit suicide.
To avoid this from happening, love her, but not totally. Expect bad times, and prepare to deal with them.
2007-02-08 00:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by PC VS Mac 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you always have to love yourself first and then you can work on what percentage of love you give someone, and besides love is something you feel and not do.
2007-02-08 01:08:05 · answer #8 · answered by vicki j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should. But humans are imperfect, they don't know how to love at even 50%
2007-02-08 00:51:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wat ur saying is also the truth.. but i too always hear ppl saying not to show 100% of the luv,if not wen it turns to a breakup u will not be able to take it... i dunno how far its the truth..
2007-02-08 00:57:45 · answer #10 · answered by sUnseT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋