Is marriage a selfish thing?

Question

Why lock somebody down like you own them? And whats up with the constant threats of divorce?

Answer 1

No marriage is not a selfish thing, it is a commercialized unnecessary, expensive day with a party, a vacation that you dont need to be married to take...but is nothing more than a peice of paper that when things change can be cancelled out by another peice of paper costing more money but no party or vacation. Live together, have kids, have joint bills, she can legally change her name for 300 bucks if she wants too, buy a home together, buy burial plots together, have parties, go on vacation ,have kids, be beneficiaries....If your in love and want to be together you dont need to break the bank for a party, the dresses get tucked away, the flowers die, the band goes to another gig, the vacation ends and all to sign a peice of paper telling you that you HAVE to love this person and be faithful and be obedient...the tax breaks arent even worth it. You dont need a peice of paper to prove your love and to spend a year or more stressed out planning a party and spending money for that 1 day and 1 party and peice of paper to prove your love. There is NOTHING you cant do because you are not married. If things change it doesnt cost as much and animosity, resentment, and Crap slinging level goes down. You can decide to split, and split without putting a lawyers kid thru college and ending up with...yup...a peice of paper

Answer 2

Marriage is so not a selfish thing if 2 selfish people are married it will never work. You have to be able to give and take and as far as the threats of divorce if you are in a healthy marriage divorce should not even come up no matter if you are arguing or not. You should be able to talk your issues out.

Answer 3

You are looking at marriage from the wrong angle. Marriage is not ownership, but partnership, not locking, but freeing.

Marriage is a thing indicative of being mature, responsible, not selfish, sharing, loving, understanding, etc.

Divorce is just a way out of a relationship that turned sour. Things happen and feelings change. Therefore it should not be used as a card to wave into someone's face when winds are not going our way.

Answer 4

Marriage is whatever the two people involved make it. If selfish people enter into marriage looking out for their own selves & still seeking to accomplish their own personal goals by using the other then yes, it's selfish for them. For most I would say it's more of having someone there whom you love to share your moments with. It's having someone to be a witness to your life. It's having someone to cry with you in the bad times & hold you until you make it through & laugh & enjoy the good times with you. People aren't designed to be alone. We like to share things with others. What could be better than having another person who says "I love you so much I want to spend every day with you & be a part of all those silly little moments that others won't care about." It's not at all about control or "locking someone down." I've never felt that way in my marriage. To answer your question, I personally think it's more selfish to refuse to marry & share your life with someone. I think being single is selfish IF you find someone you love & who you can share your life with.

Answer 5

I thought marriage required the consent of two people. So would that mean marriage is the expression of selfishness on the part of two people? And if so, so what? Marriage is simply a declaration of two people that they want to spend time together, to the exclusion of others. That's not being selfish, that's expressing a choice. Similar to choices made for a profession, trade or business.

Answer 6

Like all things, it's as selfish or selfless as the participants, and marriage is a union of equals, though not always at the same moment do they appear as such.

Which ever is in the better state of mind should they both be inclined, or else it is not a benefit to them then. Ever strive for the best, most noble, and loving and disappointment can not make room for a dwelling in your home.

Answer 7

Yes, may be worse than selfish. U are trapping a healthy and free bird in a cage, where the poor bird cannot exercise its wings and u accuse the poor bird of being lazy and not exercising its wings. U try to extinguish the very spirit of the bird.

Answer 8

Marriage is a union between a man and a woman that love each other and willingly want to spend their lives with only each other. Those who divorce are breaking vows they made before God.

Answer 9

Marriage should always stem from love. Love is, in essence, sacrificial action. Today's modern world has no room for anything but one's own self, but that's what it is. If you truly love someone, you would saccrifice every moment for them. You should treat your spouse such, and they should treat you likewise.

In a true marriage, you don't lock each other down, you become one.

Answer 10

It's not supposed to be. But oftentimes it becomes such, due to the loss of respect and consideration for each other. I believe the threats may be a plea for help.