Have you ever had a silly crush while married?

Question

Have you ever had a crush (one that you would never pursue, even if the person totally tried to get you) whle you were marreid? Is it wrong? I sort of feel it is, but my brother's wife has one. She was open with him about it and he just finds it cute, but I find it a lil odd?

Answer 1

I think its part of human nature. Its normal to find other people attractive, but to know when to draw the line. I also feel this is a test..to see how faithful we are. The devil is on the loose and he is taking down everyone he can with him. Telling him may be her way of asking him for more attention or help from him. I don't think its a good thing, but as long as you don't let it get the best of you I think its ok..Like having a crush on a celebrity..You will never get with that person, but you will still find them attractive. The best kind of crush :)

Answer 2

Crush? YES !! Silly? NO!!! You are married... NOT dead!! Does it mean that once you are married, you cease to be human?

I find that many are being judgemental.They have not been there. Anyway if you (and all the others as well) choose to ask this type of question( Is it wrong ...eg. crush, affairs,cheating etc...you know) on YA, what do you expect the answers to be?Of course most would say, "Its wrong!","Leave him!"."Kick his **** out !","Don't do it!","I will never do it!"...............and so on and so forth.So how come the same questions get asked and the same answers given all the time!

So guys and gals , you already know the answers to all your questions.... It's a "No, No, No!!" all the way to all these type of questions.

So, what's the NEXT question???

Answer 3

Yes I had one and I'm extremely glad I didn't pursue it, it isn't worth my marriage.
I don't think it's wrong, everyone gets a feel for something fresh, as long as you don't pursue it, there's nothing morally wrong in it.
I find it odd that your brother's wife has told him or you for that matter. Usually this is something woman only share with her close girly friends.

Answer 4

It's normal to be attracted to other people even when you are in a relationship. The difference is that in this case, she told her husband about it. That shows that she respects the marriage and wants him to know that while she may have the crush, she isn't willing to act upon it. Kudos to her for being so open with him. Sounds like they have a strong relationship.

Answer 5

I was married, had two kids when I had a crush on a woman, but I never acted on it, because I knew it was wrong.

Your brother thinks his wife's confession is cute. I think he is either kind of stupid, or he is a pig who does not mind wife-swapping life style.

Do not doubt your feelings, and ODD is even a mild word.

Answer 6

In my first marriage yes but not in this one as i have grown up and changed and am in a great marriage now to a wonderful husband. We should not have crushes while we are married ladies and men alike. This is not good and can lead to more.

Answer 7

OMG - I get them all the time! I've been married for 11 years & my husband thinks it's cute, too. What's the big deal? Getting married didn't make me suddenly blind or nonsexual.

Answer 8

i never did that, i have more control over myself then that

but at least she was open and honest with him about it, and people are only human and they get little fascinations and little crushes at times, i don't see the harm but he should keep a close eye on her, crushes almost always seem to get out of hand and turn into full blown love affairs

Answer 9

Yes I have for like a year now. I think it just helps me make it through all the stress in my life.

Answer 10

I was engaged, and I had a bad crush on my man's best friend. I eventually crossed the line but I don't regret it! I didnt want to marry that man anyway. And his friend was the best ever.