2007-02-07 16:22:18 · 36 answers · asked by Terri J 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All these answers are correct. But to "work" it requires the other person to react with a rejection of the marriage. So it's not so much as what one does, or so much what situations arise as how one party reacts to what comes up in the marriage. There are some things, like physical abuse, that will probably give us a predictable reaction. But as to other matters, such as money, sex, lack of affection, self-destructive habits (drinking, drugs, gambling, etc), all these have occurred in marriages without resulting in divorce. The "key" is how each party chooses to react to the other. If I choose to react with rejection of you burp at the dinner table, then it can be said that burping at the dinner table will kill a marriage. But it's really my reaction that does it. See what I mean?
2007-02-07 16:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been cheated on even as i became pregnant.. i imagine that some men discover the stress of being "trapped" in a relationship by technique of an inevitable kin to be too not uncomplicated, and by some potential dishonest is a launch. It doesnt make it acceptable, even though it takes position continuously. in case you chosen to forgive him for the sake of your kin, then you genuinely must have quite forgiven him. You couldnt have forgiven him thoroughly in case you nevertheless sense anger and disgust. So this happend over a three hundred and sixty 5 days in the past? I propose, yeah, i comprehend that it takes a lengthy time period to get over the rejection that dishonest leaves us with, quite if the different woman turned right into a lot less beautiful, yet, it type of feels that he has chosen you, and he's doing what's significant to fix the relationship. Now it really is as a lot as you if it is going to artwork out, and in case you want him and choose the three of you to be collectively as a kin, you should actually forgive him, or you'll push him away. the purely time period attempt to be worried about is the destiny, not the previous. I propose that both of you get marital counseling collectively.
2016-11-26 01:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by hamman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical and emotional or mental abuse..... Also abandoning a spouse too. Lack of communication kills a marriage too! Being selfish and not caring is another big factor and also lack of mutual respect. These are some major things that will kill a marriage relationship REAL fast!
2007-02-07 16:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
being worried what can destroy a marriage......Instead of finding ways to keep on improving the marriage (and believing it is a 50/50 relationship ) . if it is 50/50 you are only giving half of yourself to the marriage both should be giving 100% equally it is the only time 100% + 100% = 100% if you both give 100% of yourself to the marriage everything else will fall in to place
2007-02-07 16:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lies. I was married to a pathological liar. He lied about everything, about nothing. He lied to feel good about lying. If you don't have trust, you don't have a marriage.
Another would definitely be physical or mental abuse. Neither are worth putting up with. People can see physical abuse and encourage you to leave. But, sometimes I think the mental abuse is worse, because no one knows about it but you. People who have never been there, just don't understand mental abuse.
2007-02-07 17:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by Karen H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money issues. My ex and I had $13k in savings that he blew on the stock market and at the casino.
Sex. Our drives were very different and he stopped being affectionate (no hand holding, cuddling, etc).
Those two things demolished my marriage.
2007-02-07 16:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by LifesAMystery 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The husbands will say it's a lack of sex & the wives will say it's a lack of repect & help in the home & neither of them will realize how they both tie in to each other. It's a vicious cycle. One has to give in first & neither wants to be the one to do it.
2007-02-07 16:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To the girl who said "when the wife gains 50 pounds".... obviously you are not married. Marriage is about more then just looks. People gain weight as they get older, they get wrinkles, illnesses. That's why the saying goes, "For better or worse".
2007-02-07 16:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by Loki's Mommy 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Statistically, money issues bring out the worst of married couples.
2007-02-07 17:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Putting the marriage after work, play, hobbies and partying.
2007-02-07 16:25:33 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋