Dry sex orgasm the same as intercourse orgasm?

Question

My boyfriend and I have never had sex, but we have dry sex all the time...and We both orgasm from it, but I was just wondering if when having actual sex/intercourse, does the climax/orgasm, feel the same as it does as when we're having dry sex? longer? shorter? same type of feeling but maybe a little stronger? or is it about the same?

ALSO, we are talking about actually having sex for the first time, we are both 22yrs old and im a little nervous. I am not on birth control, nor can i be for health reasons...but if he wears a condom, will we be ok? IS IT GONNA HURT?!?!

hey IIIY....how does this have ANYTHING to do with love? Of course I love my bf, and your not answering the point to my question air head...

Answer 1

Of course you love each other or you wouldn’t have waited and just gone and done it. Sex is a way to confirm that love to each other and a way express it. It can be beautiful and one day you may even decide to have children. Just be confident when you take each step, be prepared and know what you are doing.

I assume by dry sex you are meaning that you are engaging in sexual activities, but you are not quite going all the way. That is your decision and you are old enough to make it between you so I won't comment on that.

IF you are talking about sex without lubrication then you should use a good lube, it can help make things smoother. The female doesn't secret a lot of fluid so often you need extra lubrication to help you.

Condoms are excellent and I would require it unless you want to get pregnant, and they are over 95% effective, but they are not 100% effective. Most sex counselors suggest that the woman uses some sort of birth control as well. If you can't use the pill then you could try a diaphragm (a condom for a woman), or a spermicid. They come in creams or foams and can also assist in your need for lubrication.

Sex for the first time is a painless experience for men, but not for most women. If you are still a virgin then your hymen may still be intact. This flap of skin is the "test for virginity" and it is broken when the female first engages in sexual intercourse. This is natural and normal. It will cause you some brief pain, but that too is normal.

If you are worried about the male member being too big then have the male masturbate first, maybe engage in dry sex before you start the real thing. The second time he becomes excited his member will not be as big. If the male can't maintain his erection long enough then you should invest in a cock ring. It holds the blood in the penis so the man can be erect longer, thus having more time to bring the woman to her climax.

To make sex worthwhile for the woman the man has to take extra actions. Men are biologically designed to have sex with as many women and as fast as possible; this is the best way to spread our genes. This explains why all a man needs to reach organism is a picture of a hot girl. It also explains why men reach climax so quickly. Women need more they need a relationship. To a woman the best way to spread her genes are to ‘capture’ the attention of a mate, who will stick with the woman, who can make a good provider and protector (which explains why the ‘dangerous men’ are so popular with women). Pregnancy is difficult and the woman needs support, once the baby is born the woman still needs help; the best way to get this help if for the woman to have strong relationships. So a relationship is more important to a woman than the actual sex act is (it is the exact opposite for men). The best way for a woman to get pregnant (and so pass on her genes) is for her to have the male enter deeply and have a long insertion time. Because of this few women climax when the man does, they just need longer and more attention before they can reach climax.

These are our instincts, how our bodies are wired, and determine our ‘default’ actions. We are not animals though so we can rise above our instincts, however it is a lot harder to rise above our body’s wiring. What all of this means is that you need to DEMAND foreplay if the experience is going to be worth it for you. Cuddling, romantic talk, and having the male stimulate your body before sex are good was to start the sex act. The romantic talk can be very good if it is loving words that make the woman feel that the sex act they are going to have will be done to deepen their relationship. If you do this then you both will find the act of sex pleasurable, much more so than the little pain you get if your hymen has to be broken.

When a male climaxes he puts over 90% of his effort and energy into the act. After doing that most men want to go to sleep. Women climax and remain on a little high afterwards so they don’t want to fall asleep right away. So the man should stay awake with the women and cuddle and talk with them for another 5-10 minutes before falling asleep.

It sounds like a lot of work for the man, and it can be, but the rewards are well worth it. Women need to realize that once men discover the other sex and are attracted to them they think about sex more than 60% of the time. To men sex is hugely important in a relationship. We want it as often as possible, and we want it NOW. Again this relates to the male’s genes which program us this way. In response the woman is ready for sex year around. Most species go through a period of ‘heat’ and are totally uninterested in sex outside of that time. In these species the male animals only want sex when the breeding season comes and he can see females in heat. Women can have sex year round to help them catch the attention and hold that attention of their mates.

Very few women and men understand why their instincts are so and why their bodies react in these ways. Men think that the single most pleasurable thing in life if sex. Women don’t understand that and are usually shocked by how much men think about sex. In fact once they have a child women’s brains rewire themselves so they actually get more pleasure when taking care of their children then they ever get out of sex. These things are true, even if the couple doesn’t want children.

So keep these things in mind:
Normal intercourse doesn’t hurt, and is pleasurable, but it may hurt the first time.
The woman needs more foreplay and extra work to get her ready for sex.
The woman also hates it when her partner drifts off to sleep right after sex.
The relationship is the most important thing to the woman.
Anything done to improve that relationship will bring more pleasure to the woman.
You BOTH need to use some form of birth control because no method is perfect.
The male wants sex, needs sex, much more than the females do.

Have your mate read these responses as well and it will help both of your sex lives. Don’t let anyone tell you that sex is unnatural or nasty, or shouldn’t be done. It should be done behind closed doors in your house. Experimenting with new things like role playing or bondage is okay, but both parties have to be consenting and they must take in account each other’s fantasies and help their mate realize a few.

Another clue for women: Women want the first time to be special, not just exciting but and event that they can remember for the rest of their lives. The male mind is more geared to accomplishing goals, to us the act is important, but often it is not as important as reaching that goal is. If a woman wants the night to be special then they need to make sure it is something that they can handle. The male will play along and enjoy the event, but it may not occur to them that the things surrounding the event need to be special. So you need to make sure that the champagne is on ice, that the birth control devices are at hand, and you have to lay the roses to your bedroom and put up all the candles. The experience won’t be any worse if you have to set it up, and if you do it enough times then the male might get the hint.

Good luck, don’t worry, and enjoy yourselves. Just do it safely and always with love.

Answer 2

Orgasm from dry sex is like masterbating and acording to some sex therapist those orgasms are stronger then actual sex orgasms. Everyone is different though, a lot of people can only get off by masturbating and not by sex. There is really no one that can tell you a straight answer for that. Also you probably won't orgasm your first few times, some women take a very long time before they learn what makes them orgasm during sex. It's still a lot of fun while you are learning though.

As far as you two thinking of having sex. Think about the reasons you have waited this long already. Is it because you want to wait until you are married? If it is, you have made it this far, don't give up. I know how hard it is, I was going to wait til I got married and ended up blowing it a few months before I got married. I wish I had waited though, it would have made our wedding night more special. When you do have sex for the first time it can hurt and be uncomfortable, but it shouldn't hurt too bad. If it's hurting too bad just tell him to stop, sometimes the muscle down there is really tight but usually him massaging it with a finger will relax it. And don't worry, not all women bleed and usually if they do it isn't that much. Actually studies have shown that most women don't bleed because of all the physical activities and things we do these days. Don't let him pressure you if you are wanting to wait til you are married though, if he really loves you he will wait even though he will really want it right that minute. If you believe in God and want to follow his ways you should deffinately wait, you will feel guilty later if you give in. If you aren't sure then it's not time.

Answer 3

It will more than likely be much better for him. As for you. You may not orgasm at all. Your first time may or may not hurt. I'd say it will, At least some what. The reason your dry humping feels good to you is because he's actually rubbing, let's just say ( the right spot) that triggers your orgasm. Penetration is different. Since that part is on the outside it's harder for him to give you the same sensation with penetration Not all women can orgasm with penetration alone. It should get better with time and good communication. As for the condoms. You should always always use condoms. You need to protect yourself from more than just pregnancy. You should do a Google search on some of the questions you have. Make sure you're doing something you really want to do. I hope I was helpful in some way.

Answer 4

Let's see...I would say when you do the real thing, your orgasm will be stronger IF he is good at foreplay. The feeling will just be more intense because it's the real deal. Your psyche has a lot to do with that.
Condoms are not 100% effective, but are pretty decent for birth control. If you can't go on the pill, be prepared to discuss what happens IF you get pregnant.
They make great condoms nowadays, but unless you're wet, it's not going to feel that great.
It will hurt, but will hurt a lot less if you have already been penetrated, and if you are RELAXED. And unless you're used to "toys" being used, he's going to seem big. If he makes sure to pleasure you first and takes it slow, it can be great...and better as you do it more.
Make sure he gets good quality condoms (Trojan).
Best wishes to you both! Have fun!

Answer 5

ok you are stressing out like i was. in answer to the first question i have never tried dry sex. but the real thing is GOOOD. the first time you guys have sex i can promise you it will be awkward particulary if you are both virgins like me and my partner were. but i promise if you relax youll be fine. the main reason it hurts is because your not use to it. and alot of the times you are dry. so try having some dry sex first to moisten you up. then it will slide in better. and once hes in take it slow til your both comfortable. and personally the first time you have sex will never leave your mind. i still think about it. If it hurts too much tell him to go softer. and slower. and generally i have found that if it is hurting you it will be REALLY hurting him. (but we didnt use a condom so i dont know if it is different)
good luck and relax it is the most amazing feeling in the world.
it brings something else into you life as a couple and makes you feel closer to each other.
wish you all the best
xxx

Answer 6

Its the same idea. An orgasm from sexual intercourse is a little more intense, and feels 100 times better :) It usually lasts longer as well.
As for having sex for the first time, you should be safe with a condom, they are pretty effective. Just make sure you are careful. Your first time may hurt or it may not. It may be alittle uncomfortable, but it is definitly worth it. I waited until I met the right guy and when we had sex for the first time it was amazing, and I didn't have any pain or discomfort. Make sure you are relaxed and wet enough, so he doesn't have to force himself inside of you, otherwise it will hurt. Other than that just take it slow and you'll be fine. Goodluck :)

Answer 7

A woman can experience a 3 major yet different orgasm's. Vaginal, clitoral or both. It is plausible that you have had a clitoral orgasm as the clitoris can be stimulated externally.

An orgasm, for woman, depends on the type of stimulation applied. Multiple, short, long, each and every woman is unique. Internal and external all play factors in the type of experience which is what makes sex fun.

For men we have just one and usually that causes us to fall asleep.

Having sex for your first time can hurt. Men tend to be overzealous in sex, which causes trauma to the soft tissue around your vagina. Lubrication and taking things slow can make for a awesome amazing and wonderful first time.

Woman have been known to have orgasm's from chocolate, pillow talk, visual stimulants and other random causes. This is the main reason why men will never truly understand woman

Answer 8

It will definitely feel better than dry sex. Sex wont necessarily hurt for you. It hurts some people and some people bleed. Others it doesnt hurt at all and others find that they never bleed throughout their whole life. Be prepared for sex, not just with condoms, but with lubricant. If it is your first time, you may not know how your body will react to him inside of you and lube makes it so much easier for insertion. Dont tense up because it makes it hurt when it shouldnt hurt. Be relaxed, stay lubed up, and have fun!

Answer 9

An orgasm is an orgasm. It will feel much better with regular sex (its much more natrual then dry humping).

Yes, if you wear a condom properly, you will be fine! Nothing is 100%, but odds are youll be a-ok.

Answer 10

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