talks constantly about her cheating husband, gets sympathy from me, there have been times when i have spent hours during my day time job talking to her, in the end she does nothing, doesnot want to leave bec of kids. also, she does nothing to be independant, (reason-kids not doing well in school so need her), am tired telling her work, become independant. she has the same reason going.
what hurts me is this- she comes around telling me that she wants to see if and how my marriage will work or not probably bec she thinks I am not the good one. she told me her husband has commented that may be i am not the good one and that I shd improve.
I am there for her in bad cheating times but have heard these comments from her abt me.
Am I wrong to be hurt by all this? What shd I think of this friendship?
This is 22 yrs old friendship. Had lost touch, now in touch since 5 years.
2007-02-07 15:51:44 · 6 answers · asked by Sense 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People change over time. We all hope that change is for the better but that doesn't seem to be the case for your "friend." Maybe you're starting to remember why you lost touch! If you want to keep the friendship you need to sit her down & have an honest talk with her. Tell her that you value her friendship & you are happy she feels that she can confide in you but that your relationship with your husband is not a subject of conversation. Tell her that if you want to discuss that with her YOU will bring it up. If she doesn't "get it" or doesn't care then you have your answer & you need to let her go on her own way & you go on yours for the sake of peace in your home. No friendship is worth this kind of stress & worry. When an outside source starts to mess with your family it's time to just let it go. Family comes first.
2007-02-07 16:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she shouldn't be talking about her cheating husband if she is doing the same thing. and if it was as bad as she said it was she would leave, not come up with excuses why she can't.
2007-02-08 00:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her about how you feel. Everything you have said above. Be as nice as possible if your wanting to try to preserve the friendship, but be completely honest.
2007-02-08 02:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not a good one then why does she come to you to talk?
just leave her alone and find another friend out there that thinks you are a good friend
2007-02-08 00:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
22 yrs. is a long time...I would tell her what you said here and maybe she isn't such a good friend as she once was.
2007-02-07 23:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is cheating, too. I think she is just working you.
2007-02-08 00:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by ne11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋