I booked a ticket to go and stay with my 14 year old daughter. She lives with her Dad in another state. Her Dad has moved and left her with his mother.
She wants me to come and stay with her until the school year is over and then go from there. I have decided to listen to her.
I am still scared of going to the other state because my ex-husband will put demands on me and ask me to do certain things that I don't feel comfortable doing. I will also have to look for a new job, etc.
Why is it so hard to make this decision? I want to step up and take care of my child, but don't want to be taken advantage of by my ex-husband or be hurt emotionally.
2007-02-07 15:41:12 · 7 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he starts trying to get you to do things you don't want to do just remind him that you two are divorced. If he keeps pushing just simply say "what part of EX-husband do you NOT understand?" Standing up to him may shock him into leaving you alone and it will make you feel better about yourself and give your daughter a better example of how a woman should be. The more you stand up for yourself the more natural it becomes. Step up and take care of your daughter, teach her to stand up for herself and not take any crap off of a man that direspects her. If she sees her dad treating you or other women with disrespect she will think that is how women should be treated.
2007-02-07 17:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by HereIAm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so controlled by your ex-husband that you cave in to demands that you aren't comfortable with, you need some serious counseling to help you find your backbone. Why can't she come live with you where you are. If he gave up custody, would he agree to have her come to wherever you are? If you need to move to where she is so she can live with you (there's that custody issue again) and you're willing to be the mother you want to be, then get some family counseling and some personal counseling. There are many agencies that provide free or earnings-based fees and it sounds like you need some heavy-duty emotional support. I presume he was abusive?
2007-02-07 23:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is more important here you or your daughter,I think it should be your daughter.Screw your ex husband.Did you forget that he is your ex .This man doesn't share your bed with you anymore and for that reason alone he has no right telling you what to do unless you let him .Tell him right from the start you are there only for her and no one else specially not him. You need to do this for your daughter Show her how strong you can be and that we can make it without men in our life's
2007-02-08 00:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to listen to him. you are there for your daughter, and make sure that he knows that. next time he tries to demand something of you, tell him where to go and how to get there. be tough, it's the only way to get guys to understand. and he's gonna think twice the next time he wants to be a smarta$$.
2007-02-07 23:56:26 · answer #4 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why can't your daughter come to u? if u do go there stay away from your ex if u know what he is capable of.
2007-02-08 07:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not going to be there, why is he going to set any demands on you?
Is there no way you can move her back with you?
2007-02-07 23:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go and forget his intentions I would want to spend time with my child so go for it.
2007-02-07 23:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋