i have had a really rough past. and i also have a hard life at home. but when i go to school, i act like im totally normal and im ok. but i sometimes think of stuff while im with my friends and it will make me sad. and they will ask me if im ok. and ill either say "yes" or "no". and if i say no, they say, "do you want to talk about anything" and i will say no. i dont thnk they will understand where im coming from and they will think im lying or something like that. and since they dont know how it feels, they will just blow it off. but i keep everything bottled up all the time and it hurts. i write about stuff in songs and journals. but its starting to get worse. i have harmed myself by cutting and suicide thoughts sometimes. and i dont trust psycologist becuase i talked to one and all they did was told my mom everything. and my mother and i are not close. nor do i wish to be. so even though my friends wont understand me, should i still talk to them about stuff?
thankyou
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2007-02-07 15:38:17 · 13 answers · asked by that one girl from that one band 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hey beautiful,
yeah i know where you are coming from lots of people go through that not long ago i di also i just finished school......i felt like i couldnt talk to anyone........but if you feel comfortable talking to someone then talk to them but if you feel you cant or they will not understand where your coming from then dont cause that will make you feel worse........
i can offer you abit of help...well i am studying to be a councellor and if you need someone to talk to then just email me at brotherfatma@yahoo.com and i will be more then happy to help you btw i dont know your mum so i wont be telling her and if there is anything you dont like that i say then you wont have to tell me anymore........?????? just give it a try because this way you could get things off your chest...
hope to hear from you...
2007-02-07 16:38:58 · answer #1 · answered by fatma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not good to keep things bottled up. If you truly truly trust your friends then go ahead and tell them everything. This will either relieve you or make things worse (in my exp. it's made things better most of the time.) With the direction your life's taking, I suggest you talk to your friends. What the worse that can happen? If you're even thinking about suicide, you should give talking to them a chance. It seems like they REALLY care for you. They'd probably make things better for you. Open up to them and you'll feel better.
2007-02-07 15:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first off Do not harm yourself because of things that have happened to you. You can rise above this. Second, if you start thinking of harming yourself call for help. Life stinks sometimes. But taking yourself out if this world is not your choice.
I'm sure if you confide in your friends and tell them exactly what is going on they will do what they can to help you. They will not understand unless they have been in your situation. Third you need to talk to a professional. You need to get professional help to get you through this. Depending on your age there are options. Not all psychologists are the same. If you are in school start out by going to your counselor and dishing out everything. Tell them about your past experiences. I'm praying for you. Know that you are not alone. Even when you feel like you are by yourself and no one cares GOD does, and so do I!!!
2007-02-07 15:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are,but you are probably
a teenager,if I were you I would not talk to my friends about it they might not understand or might say things that will make you regret even confiding in them.Try talking to someone who's older like a councler or a teacher someone who is older than you who you can trust.You sound like a very intelligent young lady I truly wish you all the best!
2007-02-07 16:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by Sandora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you friends with people who think they wont understand? ive gone through those self-mutilation problems too, and thats not the way to go. I mean, telling your friends might make it a lot better. you never know, they'll support you way more than before. if you can trust them with other stuff, why not with this? after all friends should always be there for you, no matter what.
2007-02-07 16:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Diana_Is_Amazing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok heres the thing i think i know what you are talking about because i go though the same thing evereyday but i know i can trust my friends becase they listen. your friends might not go through what you do but if you talk to them they will try to undersdtand and help you through it take one step at a time my problem is tht my parents are getting a divorce so i used to cut myself and think about suicide. i don't trust pshychologist either because i went to one and child services got involved. so don't worry you need to talk about so you can get through it. everything will be better in a matter of time!!!!!!
2007-02-07 15:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by I own the heart tht you broke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Really I do. well maybe you should tell your closest friend things like this....or you could just tell him/her the less private, but still really important things. And if they are trying to help you, then you will know that they are your real friends and that you can trust them to help you with harder, deeper secrets maybe. And if they're not really helping try talking to your pet (if you have one) or to yourself when you're alone...that works too! My friend and I have this thing where we tell each other our secrets. Like we swap secret for secret. And if one of you has a really deep secret than the other has to too! It helps to start off small and work up to the bigger ones...to build trust
I hope I helped you!!!
2007-02-07 15:55:08 · answer #7 · answered by mieke.lizard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First talk to your family and see what they say. It seems like u r craving for some attention. U could always talk to a priest if u feel like u some things to get off your chest.
2007-02-07 15:43:26 · answer #8 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your psychologist should not be telling your mom everything. How are you supposed to confide in her? That's bull. Second of all, since you can't trust your psychologist, yes, talk to your friends. They might be more helpful than you think. Good luck!
2007-02-07 15:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by rae_lee9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think friends are exactly who you need to talk to. Thats what friends are for. A true friend is someone you can vent to, cry to, and all that. I definately think you should talk to friends. If your not comfortable with all your friends knowing your business, pick one that you trust.
2007-02-07 15:52:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋