My ex-husband owes almost two thousand dollars for his share of my son's medical bills, and his new wife has sent me ugly emails, saying she will take as long as she likes to pay it.
He doesn't speak these days, as she does all the talking. When he did, it was very ugly anyway.
I had to pay a large part of my son's Dr's and hospital fees upfront before he could have his surgery, so it seems they should have to pay this back soon, but what is soon?
I emailed her the facts, just the numbers, dates, etc, but they love to fight so she made a big drama out of it.
I really don't want to do anything legal that would be upsetting to my son, and to me. I have been through a lot with them, and learned from counseling the best thing to do is stick to the facts, don't bite when they pass that hook.
They have written letters to my work to try to get me fired, spread rumors, etc.
My son is 17, and now knows where the problems lie, but it would still cause turmoil to take legal action.
2007-02-07 14:56:37 · 8 answers · asked by Marie123 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Counseling is too late now- sorry- here is the reality check.
Set your Son aside- he needs to know its about greed and not his health or ability to be loved. Legal is the only way.
His future depends on you standing up for his rights! You need his money to keep your credit and his health in good standing.
First and foremost- Stop the chit chat!
You are feeding the fire- Stop the Drama!
Actually her name is not on the divorce decree and it is his business. So contact him by certified letters, with return reciepts sent to his place of business, not his home.
Stop all contact with her and block her emails. Put all your calls through the front desk and inform HR of the problem. Let them screen your calls, she will stop after about two weeks. I would leave a message on your recorder at home, any threats will be taken seriously and charges will be filed on the person making them. If she proceeds- the get a restraining order against her.
Then you have legal grounds to "kick her butt" in court.
Dear you must contact an attorney soon- since your son will be 18 soon, that agreement will be void at that time and you may get nothing at all. Stop giving them any information besides "invoices" and "request for payments" on your attorney's letter head.
Legal action MUST be taken. Don't pussyfoot around anymore.
Let them come to you VIA your attorney.
Turmoil is already HERE- don't let fear of success keep you from fighting for your childs rights.
2007-02-07 15:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by Denise W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex's wife has no business talking to you, it should all be done by your ex husband. What does your divorce decree say? You can let the county clerk know that he is in contempt of court if it is written in your decree that he pays the medical expenses. That is the only way that you will get the money. Small claims is not going to cost you that much. Just make sure that you have all your papers in order before you do something like that.
2007-02-07 15:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what I did and it worked very well. My daughter needed surgery and it cost $12,000 with a $1500 ded. So he owed $750 and couldn't or wouldn't pay it on time and I started getting phone calls about the bill being late. I sent the Hosp. and the Billing service a copy of my Divorce Decree along with his current address and said they would have to deal with him directly as the courts decreed I was only responsible for 1/2 the ded. It worked he paid them in installments but... he paid them! Good luck.
2007-02-07 15:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by Christine P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either way, if do or don't take legal action, there is still going to be a battle...I would file papers with the court...You need to...I would also tell the court and make sure you keep the emails or whatever is sent as evidence for the judge...
2007-02-07 15:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, i am all for not upsetting your son, but its time to head back to court. take all the documentation u have, including the nasty emails from the current wife and the letters she has written to your job. Its either that or eat the cost of all the medical bills yourself because obviously your ex is not man enough to stand up to the new wife. protect yourself, and your son. No more mrs nice guy.
2007-02-07 15:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by cupcake6777 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. I don't know how long but let me tell you this.
You don't want to do anything legal that would be upsetting your son? Wrong answer. Your son must be on your side all the times and he'd better mad at his birth dad, not you for bringing a legal action.
If you start a case, you will see how soon your ex-husband pays it back. The case is actonable. I hope things get better.
2007-02-07 15:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by hopman_gibbons 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this was ordered in the family court , you should check with you lawyer to see ..He could be made to pay what is owed plus your court costs, not to mention contempt of court for violating a standing court order. Some people have to be made to do the right thing..
2007-02-07 15:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you really have any other choice then to file a small claim against him for his share of the bills. That might be the only way to get the money out of their grubby hands.
In your claim I would bring in the letters to work to get you fired as well, ONLY is you still have them.
2007-02-07 15:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In any case, all future liabilities will end when ur son turns 18.
2007-02-07 15:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋