Im not gay but no matter where i go or who i meet every girl ends up treating me the same. I admit i am really girly and feminine for a straight guy, most people think im gay... but every time i meet a girl, she immediately sees how girly I am and wants to put makeup on me and get my nails done. Almost every time, we end up back at her apartment not to have sex but for her and her girl friends to dress me up and make me look like a doll so they can take pictures. I dont understand it and I cant take control or make them stop..when i ask them to stop they just tell me how cute and pretty i am and to stop acting like a girl. I just wanna know why this keeps happening to me.
2007-02-07 14:47:54 · 10 answers · asked by Jonni L 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, whether you're gay or straight or girly or manly you shouldn't be walked all over like a doormat. It sounds like maybe you have a hard time standing up to them and setting boundaries? You have every right to take control of your own life and make them stop. If you set boundaries and they still steamroll over you then I hope you realize that these girls are not worth it.
These girls are not treating you as a person, but as a life-size dressup doll. If they want a fashion doll go ahead and buy them a Barbie. Now, some straight men like being all dolled up. But from the way you're asking your question it sounds like you don't like it. So make that clear. When they meet you and they start making plans to style your hair and paint your nails tell them that you like to look good, but you like being a boy and looking like one, too. If you want them to know you like women you could even throw a comment in there about how you want to attract girls, not look like one.
(Crossdressers and transgender people please don't get all mad at me for suggesting he say that. Y'all know that in a situation like this guy's it doesn't make sense for him to get into a lecture with the girls about how people express gender in different ways. So let's agree to the comment as is for this situation.)
And if the girls understand what you're saying and you end up becoming friends you might decide that they would be good shopping buddies for when you go out to buy a wardrobe that YOU like.
Good luck, and don't be afraid of your own backbone! It's there for a reason. Use it! :)
2007-02-07 15:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it's really bothering you, then simply ask them to treat you like a person with thoughts and feelings, not ther make-up test subject. Maybe they don't take you seriously because of your style. Maybe if they saw a more serious side of you then they can see that there is totally more to you than the aura you present!
2007-02-07 14:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must look like you would make a very pretty girl. some guys are like that. Find a girl who is turned on by that, and just go with it. You will probably lose this quality when you get older. You will be a little more "manly" looking.
2007-02-07 14:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you would have to change the way your conduct yourself. That is stupid in itself. Just explain to the girls that you are not gay or transgendered. Tell them you don't like dressing in girl cloths or putting on make-up. I doubt they will hold your down, strip you, dress you and then pretty you up. Be the man. ;-)
2007-02-07 15:44:41 · answer #4 · answered by N♂t - ♂ut - Yet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am very girly too.. women seem to misunderstand my transgenderism and my personality. they never want to get romantic or sexual with me because they see me more of a "best girl friend" but yah, if you don't like this, then decline the invites back to their apartments and tell them you are only interested in love or sex..
2007-02-07 15:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must just have a girly vibe. maybe you should find a manly straight girl.
2007-02-07 14:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by Queenie Peavey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you let it. Nobody can make you do anything, so stop allowing this to happen. It's your choice.
2007-02-07 14:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, you must enjoy it. Nobody has ever made me do anything that I don't want to do.
2007-02-07 15:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by jeremybradley2562 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nOT SURE, BUT USE IT TO YOUR ADVANTAGE. TELLL THEM THAT WHEN YOU SEE THEM, YOU DON'T FEEL GAY. SEE IF THEY TAKE THE CHALLENGE TO NOT MAKE YOU GAY. SAVE ME FROM THE FEAR.
GIRLS LIKE THAT AND SHOULD BIGHT.
2007-02-07 14:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by Cy Gold 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cause you like it!
2007-02-07 15:25:12 · answer #10 · answered by chestnutlocs1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋