im 13 in high school also get in honors so i am smart, people loves me and so does my famliy and im so pretty but seems when ever i look at my face i get all depressed. so honestly im low in confidence so i dont get why im so sad. one day i feel like a kid next i feel all mature and days i feel dumb.
2007-02-07 14:44:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
and also i already lost my virginity cause i thought sex was relaxing guessed it haunted me for eternity(im not prego)
2007-02-07 14:46:56 · update #1
Honey, don't worry. Virginity isn't all that precious and we all make mistakes. I suggest you don't keep having sex though because nomatter what they say boys don't like girls who are easy they just use them. And that would make you feel even worse. You're at a really hard time in a girl's life, the hardest. 30 some years ago I was there. Maybe you could find something that you love to do. Do you do any art ? Maybe you could learn to paint or sculpt. It really helped me at your age to create things that came just from me. It doesn't have to be "good" just "yours". I am sure you are a wonderful girl, hang in there, it'll get easier. Also your hormones are going nuts right now and that makes one emotional. Just let the feelings flow threw you and go away. Good Luck ! Peace/.
2007-02-08 07:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by Clover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, lost your virginity already..
You have a gift being smart. You need to take pride in this. I look at my own face too, and I get bored even though people tell me that I look cute, etc.
Be positive! Don't think negative thoughts. I think you're in one of the state of the blues, and I promise you, it'll pass over. Get a lot of rest, and don't eat too much candy/brownies/candy.
You're low in confidence perhaps, because you probably think that "wow, I'm so smart, I guess everyone just likes me..."
Force yourself to be even more friendlier to people, and be friends with everyone. And don't have thoughts like that. I bet you don't say any of it (because you're probably too polite), but even thinking it can have negative thoughts.
I hope I've given some new insight.
2007-02-07 23:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your post script added to this question is very important....the answer for all of the above is the same. At times you struggle because you simply choose to tell yourself untruths about yourself. It is essential to develop mastery in this area. The next time negative thoughts come around, let them pass by like a litte bug on no consequence. Do this over and over. Very simply, make the next right choice. The truth about you is that you're smart and beautiful......period. Enjoy!!!
2007-02-07 23:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by teachpeacelove 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK first off to relief your stress try squeezing a ball until all of your stress is gone, next to take care of your low confidence do this trying talking to someone in your family about your problems and let them know how feel on the inside and ask them if they can help you in any way...
2007-02-07 23:01:36 · answer #4 · answered by geostrom b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you are high achieving girl who is extremely hard on herself. your self esteem has been based on your "performance." the fact that you had sex is not the end of the world. do NOT let this ruin your life. talk to a school counselor about your problems, and try not to be so hard on yourself. i'm sure you are a wonderful girl. i think that you should pray about your feelings of inadequacy, and let god comfort you and forgive you for anything you feel you have done wrong. you are going to be just fine.
2007-02-07 22:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by diamond heart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um. i am concerned about you. does your school have a counsellor that you can go see? if not, maybe you should chat to your parents to get them to take you to counselling. you obviously have some problems that you need to work out, and it seems to go beyond the usual teenage angst.
2007-02-07 22:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by Minerva 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋