I Have No Mom What Should I Doo??

Question

I am 12 and dont have my period yet and when I do get it I am to embarrassed to tell my dad because my mom past away 2 years ago and my dad doesnt have a girlfriend so who should i tell because i am so scared

Answer 1

Don't be embarrassed...

Answer 2

First of all don't be afraid. Getting your period is natural and it is going to happen sometime or other. Each person's experiences are different. You may not even notice beyond needing to wear some sanitary protection.

Second, your dad knows all about this kind of stuff. He is a man and men, especially dads, don't go ew about natural things. Tell him you would like to have some money to go shopping for feminine products in case you should start your cycles soon.

Then go and purchase a package of sanitary pads, the lite kinds should do, and a small bottle of Tylenol. Put them on a shelf in your closet and you'll be prepared for your period and in case of cramps, which you may not even get. You really don't need anything else. You just need to know that you should change a pad every 4 hours, or when you go to the restroom and see it looks soiled. Wash your hands before and after. You can carry a prewrapped pad in your book bag or purse if you want to be ready. The school nurse also has them.

If you are uncomfortable going to your dad, ask an aunt or grandma.

I'm sorry your mom passed away.

Answer 3

My heart goes out to you. As embarrassing as it may seem your dad is "WAITING" for the day when you will come to him with this issue. He knew that from the day your mom passed away that one day you are gonna eventually grow into a woman who will experience this.

Write him a letter and put it where you think he'll find it. Like on the kitchen counter, dining table etc. also ask him to buy you a book that explains this in detail. There also other resources like some people mentioned earlier like your aunts, school nurse etc.

Pls don't rely soley on friends in your age group because some of them only know as much or less than you. This is a big change in you life..........you need to get the facts correctly so that you don't end up making any regretable mistakes..........

All the best.

Answer 4

First take a deep breath. Everything is going to be okay. The best thing is to tell your dad. He will understand. If you are too uncomfortable with your dad still tell him, but if you really need to talk to a woman about this, talk to an aunt, older cousin, doctor, or even grandma!

Here are some tips for when you get yours though:

*To try to take away some of the pain, take Motrin, Advil, or Midol
*If you have bad cramps use a heating pad
*Start with pads, and when you are ready you can try a tampon
*Mark what days you have it some you can somewhat pradict when your next one will come

Hopefully that helps. But remember, everything will be just fine! :)

Answer 5

If your at school you can tell the schools nurse or even a friends mom. Trust me your dad knows all about that time of the month and I'm sure he knows what to do about it or has already picked out someone to help you with it.Do oyu have an aunt or grandparents you can talk too? good luck and I know you will be fine and so will your dad.

Answer 6

Maybe you should consider talking to your dad. I don't know what your dad is like, but he is probably extremely protective of you and wants only the best for you. How about you ask him how he feels about talking about women's topics. His reaction might be a good judge of how to go about this. Maybe he will have someone in mind for you to talk to i.e. your aunt, grandmother, etc. Don't be embarrassed to talk to your father though, I am sure he is also scared about having to help you grow up. Be strong and talk to him, together you will get through everything.

An alternative would be to post a question on here. I am sure a lot of women would be more than willing to give you advice and talk to you about what you will go through. You might even get some advice from this question.

Answer 7

Aww..that's cute. I lost my mom too when I was 6, divorce. Quit on me and my little bro. Fortunatelly we had someone to talk about but never did because we took everything as it was.

Your case is much more sensitive, so therefore it won't apply for you to ignore your changes. If your dad is a social person, he may know a few neighbours whom you can talk to. Try them, someone nice and understadable. If not, try your best friends mom, they always help;). If then not ... check out your school guidance and tell them about the issue (that you'd like someone to talk to privately) and will surely tell you where to go. A friend of mine had problems in the family, she went to guidance and relieved herself of her bad feelings there. If this doesn't help ... tell me and I'll ask a few of my friends about their typical entry stages, and I'll get back to you.

Good luck, and btw, from all I know, craps, moody times, and fatigue are expected. some go through worse, some through lighter moments. i don't think it's supposed to be "scheduled" at first, but each has their times. they get more and more "scheduled" as time passes by. i know someone's was very random and her cramps and mood shifts lasted a whole week, while other's lasted a few 2 days and ...u could barely notice.

hope this helps...

Answer 8

If you are at the school,you can talk with a counsellor, a teacher (woman),or talk with others women in your family:sisters,aunt.If your father is a mature man and good father,he will understand and will help you.But if you know that he is not,don tell him,talk with a counsellor at the school(woman),or with your family doctor
I have a wife and two daughters.When they have your age,my wife bought the kotex to them.Sometimes I bought the kotex for my wife and my two daughters.If the father have a good and excellent relationship with the family (wife and children),then the children can talk with their parents,without be scared.If your father love you and respect you as a father do,then is not problem to talk with him.If not,talk with a counsellor at the school (must be a woman).Or talk with your family doctor.I hope you will solve this very important situation,that need to be solved.God bless you every day in your life.

Answer 9

Please trust your Dad to not embarrass you. He will understand. If you just can't talk to him about this sensitive subject, how about a grandmother or aunt. If not a female family member, you school nurse will be a good source of info. Don't depend on your peers or the Internet for accurate info.

Answer 10

Get 2 trust a (female) grown-up that you really look up 2 and know. And kinda adopt her as your god-mother. Ask her if you can come 2 her with your female questions and problems, because you need a female model in your life. And don't totally push your father out because he can help 2.

Answer 11

well go to a teacher or something. im sorry about your mom. i know how hard it is to be your age and have somebody you love dearly pass away. do you have a aunt or something you can go to. maybe a grandmother or something. and if the top ones dont work for you then just go to your dad and tell him what has happend. i know it would be embarrasing but sometime you haf to do what you haf to.