i want to tell my best friend that i am gay. HELP!?

Question

Well I want to tell my best friend that i am gay. The only problem is, is that i dont know if he will accept me for it. I know that if he is truly my friend he should like me just the same, but i dont think things really work that way. And if i do gain the courage to tell him, how should I do it?

Answer 1

If you're best friends he probably already knows, or at least suspects.

How open are you in general? Does your family know? Does anyone else know? Will his reaction be to tell everyone?What damage could he do to you with this information?

I can't tell you specifically how to do this because I don't know you or him, but remember to be safe. If there is a posibility of it leading to violence, don't do it.

And I have to second the person who suggested talking to a councilor... rarely hurts, often helps.

good luck!

Answer 2

If he is your BEST friend could he already know and just not say anything. Do other people know? If not maybe you should talk to someone, like a professional counselor, about taking steps in "coming out". This can be a really delicate matter. Because unfortunately a lot of people are very critical and may not accept you even though you are the same person you were before they found out your sexual preference. Hang in there. Listen to your heart and you'll make the right choice.

Answer 3

I wish there was an easy way to solve this. But there isn't. You just have to tell him. If he's a true friend, it won't matter to him at all. Basically, either he'll totally accept you (as he should!), he'll have a little difficulty but get over it, or he'll get all weird and uncomfortable. I promise you it won't be an easy conversation, but once it's over, it's like a huge weight off your back.

It is good that you want to be open and honest with your friends. You deserve to get it out in the open not ever have to worry about hiding it. The most important thing is to come out when you're ready. If you tell him and he rejects you, just move on. In the end, you'll be happier than if you never told him.

You never really know how it'll work out. When I came out to all my friends, only one had a serious issue with it. Even then, he eventually came around and we hang out just like old times!

Answer 4

I have a friend who had the courage to tell me she was bisexual and it took some time to get use to but I treat her like aa normal person she told me by just giving me hints then when I didn't get it she told me I thougt about it for about an hour but realized shes my friend and were still friends but then again not everyone thinks the same good luck =P

Answer 5

I can't really offer advice, because there are two approaches, one is if your a guy, the other if your a girl. WHAT ARE YOU?!

This is what I would say if I were a.......

Guy: You should tell your friend, "I'm getting attracted to guys a little. No, please don't talk. No one knows, and I don't know why myself. I just wish that you would like for who I am, because I can't change it."

Girl: Don1't be mad, please! But I sort of, well, changed. In a way most people wouldn't like. But since we're friends, I'll trust you. I am attracted to females. I'm gay. Please don't laugh; I can't help it.

Answer 6

Just say it, and if he does care then forget him. Maybe first tho if your worried about it ask how he feels about gay ppl, but subtly. Hope all goes well

Answer 7

I'm not sure Yahoo answers is the right place to ask this question...maybe a professional counselor would be able to help more than we could.

Answer 8

just tell him and see what happens. u are right if he is a true friend it wont matter. my boyfriend has tons of gay friends. a real man wont care.

Answer 9

he's your bestfriend and defenitely he know exactly who you are and what you are. He will accept you for what you are. you cant tell maybe you have the same problem.. and dying to tell you eversince...