I have my husband with 2 sons, but I feel unhappiness because I found I was in fact a lesbian after I lived with my husband for 4 years . To find my true love, I join one great lesbian dating club(http://www.ldate.com/i/lesbianclub)... and incredible that I found my soul mate about one month later. She also love me very much. We had a great online chat and I could not wait to have a chat with her face to face. After having a face to face chat with her, she said she could not live without me, she wanted me to marry her asap. I also would like to marry her, but should I desert my husband and two sons? Please tell me how to deal with the problem, I am really in a bad mood and do not know how to do.
2007-02-07 14:23:27 · 2 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I hate to say it, but my opinion is yes (at least for now). People can fall in love with other people (same or other sex) while they are married, but they can't act on it. If your husband fell in love with another woman and ran off with the kids, would you respect his preference? I don't see this as an issue of hetero vs. homosexuality; I see it as one of loyalty. Trust me, I know how you feel. I have been in a similar predicament and I believe that whoever you are committed to is who you should try to work it out with (unless your husband is just plain bad). You promised to love each other in sickness and health no matter what. Then you had two children together. You owe it to them...your husband and kids aren't running away from you due to their own passions, after all. There is such a thing as being true to yourself, but once you make a decision, you are expected to show loyalty. What if your future wife falls in love with someone else in a few years and runs off to follow her heart? Think this through deeply. Don't act quickly, on passion. Get to know this woman. Be friends within strict limits. But don't push for anything. If after a long time, you feel the same way about her, make a choice. You might find your passion was fleeting. And even though you are indeed attracted to women, so is your husband...but he's being loyal to you, so maybe you could do the same for him.
2007-02-07 16:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't just about you. What about your husband? More inportantly, how could you consider hurting your children for your own desres?
2007-02-07 14:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by shendley04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋