My Fiance And I have been together for over a year. We just recently got engaged. He had to move because of his job and i wasn't able to go with him because i'm attending school here. He's been gone for 3 months and we have seen each other 3 times since he has left. He gets to move back home in a month or so. The problem is, when we talk on the phone now, we get the usual questions out of the way.."how was your day?"..ect. If there are any suggestions to a topic or question that would give us something to talk about and could go into depth about, feel free to give me your ideas. We get a little frustrated because we both feel like we have talked about everything there is to talk about. You might want to know that we are both 18. I thank you for any of your suggestions.
2007-02-07 14:07:47 · 7 answers · asked by sweetheart07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Also, If I Must Add...I Do Not Need Or Want Some One Telling Me Anything About Being "Too Young" To Have A Fiance. If You Have Any Comments To That Matter, Please Keep Them To Yourself.
2007-02-07 14:18:39 · update #1
try to joke around- like ask him if he's seen anyone for himself. Ask him if he watched the latest episode, say of Heroes. Tell him about what Oprah showed on her latest show. Tell him if you have heard about any new recipes, which are short and sweet. Like this one, 2tbsp of sugar, a pinch of salt, 1/2 cup semi-sweet chocolate chips, 1 cup liquor of ur choice, 1 litre of boiling milk, beat it up in a mixer and freeze it for 30 minutes. Add whipped cream on top with a mint leaf (this is one of Rachel Ray's secrets). Tell him how much you enjoyed it. Tell him how much you're going to miss him on Valentine's day. Talk about current affairs or something like, if you are going to vote for the democrats. Don't keep secrets.
2007-02-07 14:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by Volvogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe you just miss your fiancee too much all you can think about is seeing him. And you forget about your surroundings. Since you're engaged, you should by now know his family right? Why not contact them, ask how they're doing and then report back to him. By doing this, he knows you care about the people he cares for. Give him some update about your family also. So he would be ready for what sort of family he will be entering. Or you could pay more attention to funny and wierd things that happen around you and share it with him.
Another thing, don't let him see that you miss him so much. Try to look occupied, act like you have a life, do something other than stressing on what to talk about on your next phone call. He'll respect you more. Oh, and one more thing, equal share of give & take also determines the amount of respect. <- Tried and true
But above all, it takes two to tango in a long distance relationship. Good luck!!!
2007-02-07 14:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by sk|TTLes™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could discuss why an 18 year old needs a fiance.
If you can't carry on conversations now, imagine 50 years from now. You and him sitting on the porch in rocking chairs. What will there be to talk about then? Still nothing. Both of you need to live and grow up and then you will have something to bring to the relationship. Right now, you 're trying to carry on "stimulating" conversation with basically a former high school senior.
2007-02-07 14:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kayse, you write very intelligently and have framed your question very well with facts about your relationship.
I'm sorry to say, however, that it's not a good sign when 2 people who are "in love" find they have nothing to talk about and have to search for ideas.
I think you should set your wedding date out at least a year. You both have very much growing to do emotionally, mentally, and physically. Sometimes, a little pause gives you both time to either "grow" together (in which case you'll have lots to talk about) or realize that you have little common ground or foundation on which to support a matrimonial relationship.
Whatever you decide, I wish you both happiness and good luck
2007-02-07 14:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with GatorBait, why are you wanting to get married so young? Finish school, get your degree and make a life for yourself. When you have it all "together", THEN maybe you can start thinking about marriage.
2007-02-07 14:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your not ready to be commited so seriously if you have nothing to say to one another
2007-02-07 14:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by texas mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk about were you will go on your honeymoon
2007-02-07 14:10:28 · answer #7 · answered by Dr Universe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋