sex and newlyweds?

Question

Been happily married 16 yrs but when me and husband were newlyweds we didnt have sex everyday or couple times a day like i heard most newlyweds do...Is this rare/abnormal or are there other couple like this..I know this is in the past and doesnt matter now just wondering

Answer 1

Are you kidding? Having sex everyday is psycho! It takes away the joy of sex for me.

When I was a newlywed, we didn't have sex everyday. Well, on our honeymoon we did but once we got back to the real world we had sex MAYBE three times a week. At most three times a week.

Answer 2

I've been happily married for 7 years. When we were newlyweds, we did a lot, but not a couple times each day. We go through phases, for example, we will have sex like 5-6 times in one week for about 2 or 3 months, then we will go back to 2-3 times a week, sometimes less. I still love him, and I still enjoy sex, whether it is 1 a day, 1 a week, or 1 a month.

Answer 3

Ha, ha, ha, ha! I only laugh because I've been there myself and feel your pain. Never, ever, ever ask people how often you are "supposed" to have sex. There is no "normal" amount. There is only the amount you are having, and the amount you wish you were having. The fact is, some newlyweds DO have a lot of sex. Many newlyweds don't. Many men complain that they don't have enough sex - but so do many women. There is no "normal". So, the real question that you want to ask is "how can I have more sex". In which case my answer would be: Ha, ha, ha, ha! I only laugh because I've been there myself and feel your pain. You have to work with your wife and explain that you have needs; that can only be met by her; that she is not meeting. If you approach the conversation without blaming her, you have an opportunity to learn that the same thing is true in reverse - she has needs that you aren't meeting either. My wife and I fought about this for years without avail. Then, instead of fighting about it, we talked. Come to find out, she didn't want to have sex because I was always bitchy when I brought it up (I always expected her to say no). Further, I wasn't meeting her need for conversation, which made her less caring about meeting my need for sex. Also, come to find out I was approaching it in the evening (when I was most likely to want it), and not in the morning (when she was likely to want it). There is also a problem with women understanding why we want sex in the first place. Many think that we want it because we are pigs who like to rut - and this is partially true :-) But in another way for many men, sex is the only time that we are able to comfortably express emotional and physical intimacy. For the same reason that she needs a good hug now and again, sex is a good time to reconnect and feel loved. Hell, have you ever been mad at her for not sleeping with you - even though you didn't really want to have sex? I used to get mad about that all the time, thinking "she could at least have the courtesy to ask", even though I wasn't in the mood. With all of this information out in the open, we both have a much better understanding on why I want it, and why she may not want it. I make a better effort to provide her needs, and she reciprocates. We now have sex more frequently, to the point that I now occasionally turn it down (she offers more often).

Answer 4

Sorry, i dont agree with the other answers. But im a 29 year old newlywed, (Dec 9, 2006) Thanks. N e ways, sex every day, My wife is over sexd, she usually takes a day to recover from the soreness between her legs. Know im not boasting, but it really depends on the man's sexuall craving. I mean i cant get enough i sometimes think im a sexaholic. Always grabbing on her showing her she really turns me on and stuff. But hey she loves it and enjoys it. Let me tell you it all lyes on the man if he is sexually frustrated heheheh in other words. I believe deeply that sex is an important part of a healthy relationship, AND I THANK GOD FOR ALLOWING THE CREATION OF (VIAGRA). Rock on.

Answer 5

Pah, we never did. That's totally for people without kids, and kids were always a part of our equation. Besides, sex that often becomes more of a chore. When it is more sporadic, it's more special.

Answer 6

no each 2 their own.

Answer 7

yes its normal, me and my husband rarely have sex, that way when we do it is awesome!!!