My fiance recently has admitted to cheating with another servicemans' wife... He wants to go to counseling.. I want to make this relationship work. But not sure if he is suggesting counseling to pull my leg. What should I do to help rebuild our relationship and what type of counseling would be best. If anyone know of any GREAT counselors in Jacksonville, FL... please let me know. Thanks in advance!
2007-02-07 14:01:14 · 14 answers · asked by butterfly_347 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Find a counselor
2007-02-07 14:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it's a big step just the fact that he suggested counseling. If you want to make this relationship work that see a marriage counselor. That will help you guys work out your trust issues. Good luck.
2007-02-07 14:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by Cris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say...please DO NOT MARRY this man!!!
Why would you want to start off your life with so many negative issues? Sure, try the counseling, but take this relationship slow, and see where it goes. Trust is a huge part of a relationship and at this point how much do you trust him? Don't rush it, try to work it out, but don't settle for less than you really, really want and deserve! Good luck to you!
2007-02-07 14:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by terry m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cheated on me -
Once a cheater always a cheater. Cheating takes energy, it's not an accident. Now that you have found out what he has done behind your back, how likely are you to forgive and forget?
Only you know how big your heart is. I say give it another try but never lie to yourself about how you are feeling. Your feelings are real and if come to realize that you can't make it through the relationship because you still feel the hurt. Please find it in your heart to not place the blame on yourself.
Broken trust is the hardest thing to put back together.
2007-02-07 14:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u think the relationship can work then give it a try. but please keep this in mind, by boyfriend cheated one time and 3 yrs later i still dont trust him fully and dont think i ever will. the pain doent go away, just after time u learn to deal with it better. so if u think u can do this go ahead. but counselling didnt really work for us. i wish u the best and think it through all the way before u make a final answer.
2007-02-07 14:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by angelbrat462901 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my husband got married before we had delt with our cheating, it dosent go away untill you do. You are doing a really good thing by going for counseling and i hope it all works out for you.
2007-02-07 14:06:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jodi Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that once a cheater alwayz a cheater n specialy if he's ur fiance but i understand that u wana fix stuff between u and him so y dont u try giving him a second chance and if it doesnt work then take him to counceling but ya need to talk about what ya want to do first ... good luck ... i hope i was a help...
2007-02-07 14:06:48 · answer #7 · answered by venecia a 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well he needs help and he needs to be the one to check into counseling not you. He has the problem with fidelity. Either way...call the wedding off.
2007-02-07 14:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by LuvMyGirls 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Counseling might work - but is that what YOU want?
2007-02-07 14:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by T Time 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dump him...once a cheater , always a cheater...you will NEVER trust him again so save yourself the anguish and end the relationship now.
2007-02-07 14:05:13 · answer #10 · answered by fade_this_rally 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋