Ladies and real man: how do u get yourself up after a nasty break up..?

Question

I learned he had lied to me about everything he had ever said.. and it was very hard to tell he was lying because he was not being too too sweet but more like a really nice friend..anywayz after his friend told him that I know that he was all an act he called me and started getting in a fight with me.. calling me names and using put downs.. it was a very nasty way to break things off while I said nothing and let him finish and at the end I said "O well okay bye"

I am trying to do the right thing about this hole thing but need encouragements and advice on what just happen and how do I move on

P.S. I was thinking to tell hi I forgive u... I got no hard feeling.. is that the right thing to do

Answer 1

absolutely not. don't tell him u forgive him. he was ugly to you and you don't deserve that. forget him. he's apparently a b@$t@rd and i think you can see that.

ik u deserve more than him. yea, idk you, but ANY girl would deserve more than that. he's a liar and he shouldn't get anyone after what he did to you.

Answer 2

He doesn't care if you forgive him or not, but if you need to do that for yourself...it's okay.

As far as getting over him and moving on, give yourself some time to mourn the loss of the relationship. I have learned to not pick the other person apart after a break up, after all, I did date this person so said person would have to have some redeeming qualities.

So, no name calling
Give yourself time to move on
and most importantly...forgiveness is never for the person who caused the pain, it is for the injured party...so forgive yourself.

( I know it sounds goofy, but we often beat ourselves up especially over a bad relationship...i.e, what was i thinking, what could i have done to change things, what is wrong with me....)

Answer 3

Life, it is the thing We get on with after we have had Our heart broken, Our soul destroyed and Our ribs kicked in. Never forget the You matter, if only to Yourself. Maintain Your dignity, decorum and self respect. Once You lower Yourself to someone Else's standard the rest of Your life will be just one long slide down through bitterness, anger, hatred and self loathing to that little place in Your heart reserved for frustration, regret, remorse and contempt for One's own Self.
Now go out and do "HAPPY" things!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

Let him Go completely. It's over and if it gets dragged anymore, it will only get nastier. I know you're probably the kind of person who likes to leave things on a nice note, but let me tell you, it's better to cut all ties.
You'll be better in a week or two. Get on with your life, you deserve better.

Answer 5

game over
move on
go see a doc