sleeping with best friends husband....?

Question

ok my best friend and her husband have been having problems and then one night me and him talked about it and well he confessed to me that hes leaving her and he want to be with me and he loves me and then we had sex and ever scince then we've been hooking up should i wait till the devorcie goes therew or should i just end things with him now?

Answer 1

I see nothing but disaster if you continue to see him.

Answer 2

Let's get real here. You say he loves you but that is only
in words, and you say he wants to be with you and leave
his wife, again just words. When he gets a divorce and
then comes to you and is 100percent for you and only for
you and committed to you only then you need to think,
will I have him forever because just what you did to his
wife he could do to you. If you want a secure love in life
then going with a married man is not the way. Do you
not read the many love outside the marriage relationships
here on the web, it should tell you something. Of course
you can do what you want but you did ask the question
so hopefully some of us can express our opinions to
where you just might think a little bit more before having
continued relationship with this MARRIED man.

Answer 3

Do you even know what a best friend is? You're not her best friend! Had you been her best friend, you would not have ever been discussing their marital problems with the husband to begin with. You sound like just another desperate, immature female who will do anything with any man for the attention or the feeling of importance, and then try to make excuses for your actions. Get out of this situation and find some single guy who'll tell you what you want to hear, and stop destroying lives of married couples.

Answer 4

End it! What a stupid question! You're a wh*re and a homewrecker! Some best friend you are. Stay away from married men, obviously you shouldn't get married either since you don't value the sanctity of marriage and can break up someone elses. I hope he doesn't have kids, they'll think it's ok for their dad to be screwing some who*re instead of their mom. Yeah it takes two, but some friend you are! You need some help. He loves you? No he doesn't! He loves your slutty ways! You probably flirted right back and didn't stop it either. Pathetic!

Answer 5

The best solution to your question is asked your best friend husband ultimately what does he want. If he want to be with you then he must close that love chapter with his wife and come out again clean with you. I mean how can you have 2 chapters (2 timing) you can either make sure you close one THEN open the other or continue to savage the existing one. What one problem cant solve in one relation is likely to surface in the next relations is how much we can learn from the mistake of a fail relation and try to avoid it to learn how to tackle it when you are into a new relation.

Answer 6

ofcourse he wants you to say nothing... he cant keep his dick in his pants! once a cheater, always a cheater. its an awkward situation that you are in but you did put yourself in it. I think that you wont have a friend anymore if you tell her but its a difficult thing to know if you should tell her or not, because if you tell her you have not only slept with her man but you have ruined her marrige, but if you dont tell her then she may be setting herself up for a world of hurt when she finally does find out aboutt her husbands intentions. hmmm i cant belive you would do this. WHY? WHY did you do this? do you have the hots for him still??? if you do i think that you need to stay well away from him. only you can deside whether you are going to tell your friend or not. Either way you go you are ruining something. What a horrible thing to do and i would like to mention. KARMA IS A *****!

Answer 7

Well you can go with it if you want but it is going to be problems down the line guaranteed. You cant fathom that because your under his spell, but if he did that to her you know you can not trust him don't you? People generally have a pattern, what they do with one they generally do with the others after that one. So please don't be surprised if you find out he is not who you thought he was. Do you believe in Karma? Well my friend it is very real and it will catch up to you sooner or later. I'm not going to preach to you how wrong that is because you already know, but try to clean up your act morally.

How could this guy have been in love with you the whole time and you not know it? I think you were giving him the inclination a long time ago that you would be down for sleeping with him. A man wil do it as long as you let him get away with it honey. I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place myself because I still have love for my ex but he is married now. He lets it be known that he would sleep with me but I know its not right and that it will come back to haunt me!

Think about it kiddo! I hope you make the right decision. Apologize to your friend also, you were supposed to be her sister and help her not sleep with her husband girl. who just does stuff like that?

Answer 8

1) You are *not* this woman's best friend.
2) Depends on what you want from him. If all you want is sex,
then why stop now? You've already stepped over the bounds
and probably might be the reason they'll finally break up,
which could be a good thing for both of them. So, enjoy yourself.
However, you want to *be* with him in any other way- forget it.
If he cheated on her, he'll cheat on you- and why shouldn't he?

Answer 9

Ok, look, you've already been kindof put in your place by everyone... thats good .... you do deserve it, you know. But, I want you to think about something very important, thats all, just think about what I am going to run by you. Ok, don't you realize that someday, in some way, you will pay? Don't you know that you will have to go through something 10 times worse in your future, now? What you did was so very wrong and in every way and in the worst way, can you for a moment ( and I really want you to do this), can you EVEN imagine the magnitude of what you are going to have to go through someday to pay for this??? It may not be now, or tomorrow, or in 10 years, but I can guarantee you, that it will happen. I am trying to imagine just what kind of horrible thing you will experience sometime because of this and I cannot even imagine!! I mean, when I think of some of the most horrible things that you will surely face some day, my mind goes blank and doesn't let me even go there!!! It hurts too much just thinking about it!!! Imagine the magnitude of the pain your friend will have to go through when this comes to her attention. And, don't for a minute think that it will not come to her attention, because sooner or later, it will. Do you realize that this is one of the worst types of emotional pain that any human will ever experience with the exception of losing a child? Think of just how bad it is going to get for her. Think of the astronomical amount of pain she will most certainly go through.. All thanks to you.... her "friend". The one person who she trusted and considered as her own "best friend", totally believing that she really could believe in you on any level. All the times she would look trustingly in your eyes, like only a best friend would or could, and share her innermost secrets, her traumas, her joys, and sadly, her marriage difficulties. Only to have you "use" this sacred information to selfishly have some fun with her husband. Imagine what SHE is going to think of you. Imagine what everyone IS thinking of you.... Imagine what YOU will think of you....

Answer 10

always seems to happen when problems come, some one takes advantage of it and gets involved, causing a marriage to end before it was really over with. aren't u afraid he will do the same thing to u after awhile? think u should stop seeing him and let him work on his problems, wouldn't want the karma coming back on me so end it he is married and needs to work on his marriage, think about how your best friend will feel? what if it were u would u want someone coming in sleeping with your husband during such a volunerable time in a marriage.

Answer 11

You are hardly a best friend, best friends do not sleep with the others spouse. I think you should ask for forgiveness from your friend and apologize to her. Then I think you should leave her alone and never see her husband again. You don't even sound like there is any remorse, you want to know if you should wait or end it (isn't that sweet). Get lost! I don't understand people like you but then I don't surround myself with deceitful people like yourself.