My husband was comming home from work (he is gone for 2 weeks at a time) durring those 2 weeks we were fighting alot. When he was supposed to get off the plane i never ended up hearing from him. He phoned me 2 days later after I called the hospitals, jails and airport, and police I was so worried. he wouldnt tell me where he was and said he was teaching me a lesson for being so mean.... I dont know how to deal with this, I think it was so cruel for him to do and i dont know what he was doing when he was gone
2007-02-07 13:04:08 · 14 answers · asked by Jodi Lee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry about the vagness of the fight, he always says that if I am not happy with him and dont be supportive of him being gone all the time he will find someone who will. I have been having alot of health probs and really want him around. And I am upset cause he makes me feel like he has people lined up for when he is done with me. I want our relationship to be forever.
2007-02-07 13:16:42 · update #1
You probably had it coming! Why would he do this if you didn't treat him like crap and constantly b*tch and nag to him about crap? I'd do the same thing back! I hope you learned from this, if not, he'll get smart and pack his bags. It's all about you isn't it? Grow up and start treating your husband with some respect and quit being a nag!!!! Start reading The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands and The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriage by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. Maybe it'll knock some sense into that head of yours.
2007-02-07 13:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
it takes 2 to tango. i am not saying what he did was right - but you have to also look at yourself and see if there was something you did that made him do this to you. look past all the fights and everything else - search for the root of it all. what started this whole thing in the first place. that is what you need to work on - with him. divorce isn't always the answer.
2007-02-07 21:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by boracaysun97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You back up and try to see what you can do different. You ask him what he thinks you are doing to be mean. You try to find the root of the problem and not just get mad. Why does he not want to come home? ASK him questions until he can't give an answer and don't accept "I don't know" as an answer. You communicate and you push until he breaks, one way or the other.
2007-02-07 21:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by lucki female 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you BOTH have some growing up to do. Yes he was wrong for not getting in touch with you and letting you know he was okay....having said that why the hell would you continue to fight for two weeks while he was away? Its very hard to solve any problems over the phone....or however you were talking....make that fighting. Think of it this way.....if his plane had crashed....was what ever you were fighting over for the two weeks THAT important that you NEVER said I love you? Think about it
2007-02-07 21:16:20 · answer #4 · answered by oldman 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Both of you were in the wrong here. Just let it go and move on and try to get past this. Ask him why he did not come home and tell you where he was at... I tend to think he may have been hurt and angry with you because you were fighting and he did not want to come home to that. you both need counseling and help here for this and for your marriage.
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2007-02-07 21:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you didn't give the whole story, but, he sounds like an insensitive jerk. You may need to sit down and talk to him next time he's home about the whole reality of the relationship and ask him where he stands.
2007-02-07 21:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, what he did was very cruel. Tell him the only "lesson" that taught you was that he's capable of hurting you, and making you lose your trust in him. Lesson learned.
2007-02-07 21:17:55 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy F1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What an immature jerk. I would leave him. Why do you have to put up with that kind of crap from anyone?? Thats just blows my mind that he would act like a 16 year old.
2007-02-07 21:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he's doing something he isn't suppose to and he's trying to shift the blame on you and he won't feel guilty. SO ask him and if doesn't say nothing hey, next time go out and find out what's he's doing. And then kick him to the curb. If you want to IM me anytime. or e-mail me to chat more
2007-02-07 21:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
teach him a lesson of his own..call a divorce lawyer, pack the stuff YOU want him to have and leave it on the porch..change the lock....lesson learned
2007-02-07 21:09:22 · answer #10 · answered by cupcake6777 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋