It's so bad that when we travel together in the car, I always turn on the radio so I won't have to force myself to think of something to say to her. And, we're not newlyweds by any means. We never did have much in common, but it's gotten to the point now where it's just plain awkward to be in her presence. Sometimes I wish divorce were an option, but for reasons I won't go into right now, it's not. Just don't know what else to do....
2007-02-07 13:04:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You both need to go to marriage counseling to try to help and make this marriage a better one. You need to learn how to communicate with each other. You really need to get to know each other all over again.
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2007-02-07 13:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find something that you both like and can have a laugh about. Do a few of these things so that you have something in common. Marriage isn't easy you have to work at it. You sound like you don't have much on the ball. I only had that problem once after dating someone a long time. But then, he didn't know anything about what was going on in the world, had no interests other than a football game or two, couldn't tell a joke, didn't do anything interesting to talk about, etc. etc. I had to always carry the conversation or there was silence. I guess because he was incredibly good looking he thought that was enough. The longer I knew him the uglier he got. Try watching something to gether and then saying what did you think of that. And then do it again and again. Read the front page. What did you think of THAT? Pretty soon you should be talking. If she responds to nothing, poke her. . she may have died and you didn't notice.
2007-02-07 21:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God I hate couples like that no offense in saying that but I swore to my husband before we married it would never get to a point where we were in the car and never spoke two words to each other.I am a firm believer in working things out and really finding out if thats the person you are meant to be with but I think you have to feel in your heart its something you could achieve.From the sound of it you were never in love with her.I am not one to say hell yeah get a divorce but search deep in your soul and ask yourself is this the one.Honestly is this the person I want to spend the rest of my life on this earth with.If the answer is no then move on you will do both of you a favor.If the answer is yes then do what it takes to get things back on track and start loving each other the way you both deserve.I believe in second chances and I believe in the bible and sticking together thru thick and thin but I also believe people make mistakes and marriage can be one of them....So do some soul searching thats the only way you will find the answer to this one
2007-02-07 22:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by samwise25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same boat that your wife is in. My husband is indifferrent about everything (including me), our communication has come to a halt, and I really feel like he could care less whether I'm there or not. After talking, crying, being upset and begging for his attention, I've stopped trying. Divorce is not an option right now, so I've started new hobbies, staying in touch with my social circle, making new friends, and if he wants to be part of it, I would love it. If not, oh well.
2007-02-07 22:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know any of her interests? Does she work? If yes, do you know anything about her coworkers and job? How much do you know about her childhood? Even if you don't really care about them you can still ask. Talk to her about you........ try to rediscover each other, start a list of things the two of you want to learn / try, maybe the two of you can find something in there that you can at least consider. Most likely she feels the same way you do if neither of you is talking so she might be happy to try new topics too. good luck!!
2007-02-07 21:12:48 · answer #5 · answered by irish eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, First, when you said, "I Do", you did, so y'all need to work it out. What attracted you to her in the first place? Do you remember to buy her flowers every now and then, just because? Do you have date nights, alone no kids? Do you still love her? Next for her, does she do special things for you, like bake your fave cookies, put little love notes in your lunch, or briefcase? Does she still love you? When was the last time both of you looked at each other and appreciated what you have? Do you pray for each other? Do you read the Bible together?
Lastly, are you saved? If so, do you go to church, have you tried marriage counseling with the pastor? I wish you luck, marriage isn't always easy, but its worth the fight, Satan is just itching to break up marriages cause its something God ordained.
2007-02-07 21:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by the pink baker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try just some general topics such as what does she think about global warming, what tv show is her favorite, etc.
Or buy a book with trivia questions or interesting trivia facts and have her read it aloud while you drive, then the two of you can discuss it.
If you're really tired of living this way, maybe you could seek out some counseling, either with your wife or alone.
Good Luck!
2007-02-07 21:11:51 · answer #7 · answered by Ruby V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do things together. Recreate friendship. If you love sports, take her to a game, explain the rules to her. If she likes movies, go to one with her. Let her tell you the underlying stories beneath the screenplay. Gossip about anything, anyone: friends, family etc. Take out pictures you have taken together, identify the scene, the background and the context. There is so much to say--seeeee
2007-02-15 17:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by Elder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in love with her? If so then it sounds like you need to get away for a romantic week-end to find each other again. If your not then I would say there is nothing left to do.
2007-02-07 21:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and have some respect for your wife. She deserves as your spouse some attention. Don't be so shallow.
2007-02-15 11:26:23 · answer #10 · answered by diamondbullet66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋