GUYS help me on this one...SEX question..?

Question

im a married women, 29 id say im attractive, blonde, blue eyes..nice body..ive tried EVERYTHING known to man, to iniciate sex with my husband,,he seems not interested, he can go weeks/months without it and makes me feel like im putting him out when i even hint around about it. i love sex, and need it alot more then what im getting..is this normal..? its becoming a huge issue for me..and he wont listen to me..any ideas? thanks..

Answer 1

Everyone will say to communicate with him. I am sure you have tried that too, many times.In this case no amount of talking, begging, crying, initiating, hinting.....(whatever else you can think of)...would change the situation.Right?

So to all who suggested 'communications', let me tell you it would not work, not in the long run. It might be ok for a short while (and I mean SHORT) and then it's back to the same old, same old.Then what else??

So my suggestion is, no need to talk anymore(or any less).Take good care of yourself.Make sure you stay attractive.Cultivate some activities that you enjoy on your own. Have a life ,without him.Let him see you getting along,without him and without sex.I am sure there's a real man out there waiting to cherise and ravish you. When you are ready to make a decision, you will find him!

Answer 2

well u got some options..a vibrator..cheating..or get exciting..I cant say what yer mans problems is..but for me I know that now that I'm older "sex" isn't enuff to get me real excited...I mean I still love sex..but when u get home from a hard day at work and the kids are screaming and so much stuff needs to be done around the house or whateva..sex sounds good but just not THAT good..So good that you put aside everything and wanna dive rite in... Try spicing it up..see how far you can push it...porn..making porn..do it in public..invite a friend..whateva you feel comfortable with...I you choose to do nothing but whine and complain it prolly wont get any better and you'll prolly end up divorced...take action asap to save yer marriage and try to understand that we men peeked along time ago when you ladies wouldn't give us as much sex as we wanted

Answer 3

I do not know if this is gender specific, but the notion of sex is a lucious idea. It is a mental exercise that tempts you so, that you must act on your more delicious primal emotions. Where is his mind? Then where is his heart? Say his heart is in his car, then meet him their and make sure you suggest to him your interests. Men do not like to be "pestered" and argue about it. Spare yourself and him and make sure you are not a nag. Rather, he has to feel like it, he has to think about it, he needs it to be placed on his mind because you meet him where the passion can be received. The unspoken thing is if you have had discussion about having a baby, he may be gun shy, no pun intended. I hope this helps.

Answer 4

You didn't say how old he was but I am assuming he is around the same age as you. Unless there is a medical reason that his sex drive is so low then no this is not normal for a healthy young male. It is time that you sit him down and talk....explain....dont tell.....that you really need the closeness in your marriage....and that yes you can satisfy yourself sexually.....that does NOT give you the closeness you desire and need as a women. Explain to him that you need to know what HE needs from your marriage in order to get this closeness that you desire.
Best of luck

Answer 5

Its to bad your in this spot. Have you tried to ask him what his reason for no have relations with you.Either he has lost interest in you or he may have other interest other than you. Ask him straight out .If your not happy with his answer ask does he want a divorce .Be ready if he says do you, ,because he is afraid to say so.Then give him your answer.At least you can have closure an get on with living .Being with someone & being alone is the pits.
Hope this helps you get help & talk to someone.

Answer 6

you should talk to him about it and then if nothing changes you might want to ask yourself if you want to be in a relationship that you must beg for what you want all the time and then when you get it you should ask yourself if after all the effort it was worth it I would never feel right if i thought I was forcing someone to go against their nature so first i would try to see if we could talk it out and if there was not a change or some medical reason for his low drive then perhaps i would move on

Answer 7

Talk to him. He could just be under stress from work or he could have a medical condition like diabetes which could be affecting him. Just talk to him in a concerned and caring manner before it gets to the point where you might start to think about going out and doing something that you might regret later.
Talking can and does do wonders.

Answer 8

May be you should ask your husband if he would go to a therapist or a doctor men are naturally uncomfortable with talking or even dealing with performance issues! Just let him know who it's effecting your relationship!

Answer 9

Talk to him he may be under allot of stress at work or he may have depression.Both will cause this problem.Depression will kill a sex drive faster than anything and what he may have found very enjoyable before will now be a burden.Notice his habits and see if he has changed from the person he was a couple of years back.If so then this may be the problem.Depression can be treated and the sex life will come back.

Answer 10

Have your husband see a real doctor. Something is going on either mentally, physically, or emotionally when a man lacks sexual desire for his wife. Have him get himself checked out if you want the problem resolved.