On Christmas morning I discovered that my husband was involved with another woman. She kept trying to call him on Christmas eve and I figured out something was going on. He sent her a Christmas gift. He doesn't even shop for his own family unless it is to get a gift card. I checked the cell phone records and they had been having increadingly longer and more frequent calls, sometimes a couple of hours at a time and almost every day. My husband works with her and he is gone a lot on business. When I confronted him he said they were just friends. He admits to having lunch with her on several occasions. He said that while working together they discovered they had a lot in common. They started calling, emailing and texting (hundreds of texts). He never told me about this friendship. He purchased a ringtone that was assigned to her calls. I don't have a special ringtone, just her. He claims that there was nothing physical. I don't think he is telling me everything.
2007-02-07 12:34:14 · 19 answers · asked by Betrayed Wife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He may be telling the truth and there is nothing physical, but it sounds like an emotional affair. He may not even realize how serious this connection has gotten, but it honestly can become a physical affair and some even consider this worse. I would seek out some information on such things and talk to a counselor. This is a friendship that many would strongly advise not be continued. I hope things work out for you sweetie.
2007-02-07 12:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is telling you everything he has someone else to spend his time with other than you.He just leaving out the part that he never told you about her.That there together all the time. Not much left to tell you???? Don't be so naive the only thing you don't know is where they are meeting .Your choice live with a cheater or not . He doesn't even care that you know what a sport .
Hope you find a better life - him. Find some help & talk to someone.
2007-02-07 13:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your instinct is usually right. If she was just a friend, he would not have kept it a secret. Can you do some checking to find out if the times he was away on business supposedly he really wasn't just shacked up with her somewhere? It would hurt but knowing the truth is better than being made a fool of which is what it sounds like he is doing.
If you find out the truth, leave the jerk and let his nasty mistress have him.
2007-02-07 12:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by LuvMyGirls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some friends of mine that purchased a special ringtone for his cell phone. So when that special person calls they know it's their wife and not someone whom they know they have lots in common. I have some good female friends, but I don't have special ring tones on my phone for them. Neither do I talk to them for lengthly periods of times on a regular basis more than I do my wife. See where i'm getting here??? Instincts do tell alot. You should listen to yours if their trying to tell you something.
2007-02-07 12:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After someone has been formally charged and fortunate sufficient to stay clear of a significant criminal bullet, there is not any such element as coincidental contact with the guy on the middle of that situation. complication-free sense will kick in for most sane human beings to prevent that chance. Your husband sounds like he has another issues happening with him, none of that are good. you at the instantaneous are asking the incorrect questions. in the present day attempt to be in search of procedures to distance your self from this guy who has dealt so dishonorably with you, and that i wish you'll do precisely that. existence's too short to ought to regulate this crap. chuffed Thanksgiving. With all due note of to Billy F, I strongly disagree...do not have sex with that clown; eliminate him, now.
2016-11-26 01:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may not be sexual now but i bet it wont be long before it is.to be honest i wouldn't believe a word that he says,i have been in the same boat as you,i was told that they where only friends until i caught him out,maybe you should get yourself a special friend that you can call .e-mail ,go to lunch with see if he likes it,please watch out,try and do some noising around to try and find out the truth.
2007-02-07 12:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by plopper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel it was more then that since he did not tell you about it and he felt he had to hide it. Why was she the one that had to do something and try to contact him and you had to find out the hard way. I think he is lying and being dishonest here. Have him take a lie detector test and then you will know for sure.
2007-02-07 12:40:46 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband did the exact same thing. They were friends, had alot in common, she was someone who understood him and listened to him, blah, blah, blah. Still a married man with children at home and had no business seeking comfort in another woman. He didn't have a cell phone but spent all day while I was at work talking to her. I tapped my home phone and busted him. Do whatever you have to do to give yourself piece, because it is hell I know.
2007-02-07 12:49:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn' t have to tell you it was physical to be a betrayal. That's a lot of stuff, even without sex, to maintain a level of intimacy with a woman outside your marriage...You have been deeply hurt, and the two of you need some outside intervention. Good luck Betrayed, and remember you're worth the truth!
2007-02-07 12:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by steelypen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be just the start of an affair that's why he said it's not sexual. Judging by the way they are communicating it could be he's lying or they will end up having sex. One thing is for sure, they are getting closer and more intimate. Another thing for sure is he IS cheating on you.
2007-02-07 18:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋