So, I was finishing a school project on my mom's laptop. I mistakenly opened a Word document entitled "You," instead of my homework, which was similarly titled.
"You" was an angry letter from my mom to my dad. It accused him of various shortcomings that I didn't know existed, including of him being alcoholic. As far as I know, he barely drinks at all.
She was either extremely angry or under PMS. The latter seems unlikely, considering she's 54 and post-menopausal.
I blew "You" away, eradicating it and even running a search for duplicates, before covering my tracks. There were none, but I can't rule out hard copies. It will NEVER see the light of day.
Should I have deleted it?
2007-02-07 12:28:19 · 13 answers · asked by BOBO 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
No it was none of your business to do so. Maybe she just wrote it to vent some frustration. You don't even know if she was planning on giving him the letter or not. Would you like it if someone snooped around in your documents and deleted them.....
2007-02-07 12:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by Sun Spot 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you should not have seen it. Your Mom may have been blowing off steam but she should have deleted it if you use her computer. It would have better to just have ignored it. When you have been married for a number of years, you will find out just how hard it is and how much work it is to live with someone. Many people write in journals to sort out their feelings and journals are private as her letter should have been. Because she wrote it does not mean she was going to print it. You need to tell your mother you opened the letter by mistake and read it, became upset and deleted it. Apologize for butting into her business and ask her NOTHING about what she wrote. Tell her you will never speak of anything you read because you realize those were her private thoughts. Now forget it. Later . . .you may want to have her set up a private folder with a password only she knows so that you do not stumble into anything else.
2007-02-07 13:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did this to protect your Dad, I think it was okay to do. It might not have been ethical but you intent of what you did was honorable.
I think people write things just to let off steam, however if they ever get in the wrong hands they can be harmful. Been there done that.
You might not want to bring it up to her, she probably was quite angry and hurt when she wrote that.
Divorce is never easy, just continue to love your Mom like you have.
2007-02-07 12:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by Carlene W 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Noramally I would say no you shouldn't have, but at the same time your mother should not have left it on a computer that you use for you to find. No matter what their relationship may be he is still your father and she needs to respect that. If she goes back and looks for it and can't find it, just explain to her how much that letter hurt you.
2007-02-07 13:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by The time has come 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go away issues as they are ,,,, If both one among your mum and dad needs you to carry close something then they'll search for you out to allow you to comprehend ,,,, inspite of if it became unintentional you want to end snooping ,,,, What is going on between your mum and dad is their business enterprise till they allow you in on it ,,,, Your deleting something or something won't be able to change the area and neither is your understanding about it ,,,, do not allow both of them comprehend what you ran throughout ,,,, you purely may get your face slapped and lose your esteem with both one or both one among them ,,,, yet differently to seem at it really is placed your self on your moms position or quite in case you had something on the pc that became deepest may you want each person snooping in the back of your back intentional or not ,,,, back out of this as speedy as you are able to and go away sound asleep dogs lay ,,,,
2016-11-26 01:10:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was way more information than you wanted wasn't it? But no - you should have backed out quietly and never mentioned it. Same courtesy she has extended to you when went snooping by accident in your room.
2007-02-07 12:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by justwondering 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...that was your mom's and quite frankly if she needed to tell your dad some things that are upsetting her in their marriage then that's her business. All she'll do is rewrite and give it to him anyways if that was her initial intention. It's really not your business.
2007-02-07 12:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its possible she just wrote it to vent and never meant to give it to him. Thats fine that you deleted it, but the best thing you can do at this point is never mention it again, and if your mom asks, do not tell her you saw it.
2007-02-07 12:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you deleted it without telling her, then there is a possibility she might think your father deleted it. You shouldn't touch it.
2007-02-07 12:51:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you did it in the name of love, you have nothing to worry about. If you care that much about the cohesion of your family (wrong or right) ethically doesnt matter.
2007-02-07 12:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by Sm@ckdown! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋