I feel isolated from the world, simply because of me been an irregular person, what should i do?

Question

well I'm unstraight and feel confuse about my self, what advice can anyone give me?

Answer 1

You should embrace who you are and not look at yourself as being "irregular". No one is the same and everyone is different. That is what makes the world go around. There are plenty of people who are "unstraight". If you do not like who you are on the inside, you are going to portray that on the outside.

You must like, no love who you are. What are your strengths? What do you excell in?

Lack of confidence is the most common reason why people fall short of their dreams. True, lasting confidence comes from knowing the right direction to take to enhance your natural strengths. When you understand yourself, you understand what’s right for you, now and in the future. You can move forward confidently. Success isn’t fitting other peoples’ requirements. It’s being true to yourself and making the best of what you have.
Why do you hesitate before life’s choices? Is it because you aren’t sure what’s truly right for you?

Don't let people push you in directions that suit them. By knowing yourself fully, you'll see the best choices to match your needs, not others’ preconceptions and hidden agendas.
Time spent on exploring your inner strengths is priceless. The more you focus on what works for you, the more your success and confidence will grow.

HOW CAN I RESOLVE STUCK FEELINGS AND MOVE AHEAD?

If you want to move beyond the things in the past that are keeping you stuck—your unfinished business—you need to acknowledge them and tell the truth about them. You don’t necessarily have to take any action; sometimes just writing or talking about something is enough to lessen its impact. You can write about it in a private journal or talk about it with a trusted friend or counselor. Here are some things to examine when looking for your unfinished business:

Risks you think you should have taken

People you treated badly

People who treated you badly

Not doing something you should have done

Messes you need to clean up (literally and metaphorically)

Things you should throw away

Things you need but haven’t allowed yourself to have

Projects you’ve started but have not finished

Projects that you want to start

Things you want to change

Things you want to stop doing

Experiences you want to have

Things you want to say to someone

Feelings you have not expressed

Secrets you don’t want to keep any longer
Getting through a period of self-doubt and second guessing is possible. Here are some proactive steps you can take to emerge from this period with renewed enthusiasm and a positive outlook:

Learn to manage stress. You can learn proven techniques for calming and relaxing yourself. Consider taking a stress management class or buying a set of relaxation tapes.

Learn problem-solving skills. Many people who struggle with depressed feelings never learned problem-solving skills. They need to develop the ability to view problems from many viewpoints and look for a variety of solutions.

Build your life around things you can control.

Learn to recognize what you can control and what you can’t. Avoid spending much effort on situations that won’t pay off for you.

Learn self-acceptance. Instead of rejecting the parts of yourself that you don’t like, learn to manage them more productively.

Become aware of selective perception. Observe how you generate ideas and opinions about people and events. Remember that these are just your views, not necessarily objective facts.

Focus on the future, not the past. Depressed people tend to be focused on the past. People who set goals and focus on the future tend to be more positive about life.

Develop a sense of purpose. Many people who feel sad or down lack a sense of purpose or meaning. This means they have no goals and nothing in the future drawing them forward. To ward off gloominess, develop a stronger sense of purpose and meaning.

Strengthen your emotional boundaries and set limits. Boundaries define your role in a social situation. They determine how you will and will not behave in a given situation. Having clear, strong boundaries is empowering, while boundary violations make you feel victimized and helpless. Setting limits means having and enforcing rules for the kind of behavior you expect in a relationship.

Build positive and healthy relationships. Think about what you need from others in relationships.

Learn to read people and trust your instincts about whether they are good for you.

Avoid isolation. Talk to people about what’s going on with you. If you keep your thoughts to yourself, you may be unaware that they are distorted. If you share them with another person, you can become more objective.

Hugs to you. Be proud of who you are. Hold your head up high. Don't forget to pray and tell God how you feel, it definitely helps to let your feelings out that way too.

Answer 2

Why do you feel isolated and irregular? Is it because you are gay? If you are confused about yourself you may need to talk to someone. You sound like you could be a young person, if so and you are still at school go and see a counsellor.

If you feel isolated from the world you can change this by accepting who you are, if you accept the way you are others will have to as well.

You sound like you need to boost your self confidence and self esteem, it is hard to say without more details, but I am sure you are a very loved person, parents love their children unconditionally. Can you speak to them about your concerns?

If you need anyone to talk to email me,

Good luck Jackstar x o

Answer 3

This is exactly the sort of situation that a psychiatrist can help you with. S/he can help you understand what you were doing to yourself, and to help you tear down the walls you have built around yourself. It's sad that you had to go through the backstabbing and discouragement, because sometimes it does seem to pile up into an insurmountable heap. But after a while, you realize that it's in your past, that you no longer see the people who hurt you, and that you are secure enough in yourself to recognize them for what they are. Petty little people. You're ready to go that route now, So find yourself a shrink you can trust, work with him or her, and get that smile back on your face. The world is really a great place. Welcome back!

Answer 4

Everybody goes through that to some extent so you have that in common with everyone at least. Normal isn't so great or the world would be a better place so don't worry if you feel different. You sound nice so whatever makes you irregular is probably an improvement on normal.

Answer 5

I suggest start small, get out of the opposite side of bed in the morning, when you brush your teeth keep the smile you have on, tell yourself it is the beginning of a new day, and most importantly give thanks for the oppurtunity to chance making a difference in someone else's life. I am sure you have already, you just havent looked at the positive things about yourself lately. Say good morning to others, not mumbled but good morning like you mean it. You'll see that other's will start to wonder what your secret is, YOU!

Answer 6

well, im sure that by unstraight you mean that you have not decided what you are, but you realize that you are not exatly strait.
ive been there too, and i have a lot to tell you, but im not sure its what you want to hear, but it is what you need to hear.

i went through the same thing that you are going through now. im a very popular person, but when i started to question my sexual orientation, i started to alienate myself from my family and friends. i didnt realize that this is what i was doing however, i saw it as i was to different from them, and there was no way they could understand what was going on inside of me.
i thought that if they knew, they would hate me and reject me. its ironic that i thought that because i ended up rejecting THEM out of fear of what they might think.
a few of my friends knew about me, and my idea that i was bi or gay, and a part of me took comfort in the fact that they accepted me that way, but it wasnt enough, i still felt empty and alone.
the burden of my secret and all the pressure and fear finaly took its toll. after several suicidal thoughts, i decided that i couldnt take it anymore, but i knew i would never commit to suicide.
soon after i found myself at a camp with my church. the whole group was talking about the things that they struggled with, and so i got the courage to tell them.
telling christians that your not straight is hard, but they all loved me anyways, and they helped me.

i learned that i was not made to be that way, or feel that isolation.
God made me to love him, and thats all that matters. Im no longer gay or bi, i dont believe that God makes anyone that way because of everything i have learned from what i went through.

so this is what i want you to know,
There is a God, who loves you and made you, and wants to be with you.
Jesus loves us so much that he would give his life for us, even though we are not perfect.
You can change, and you can heal, and when you do, you will not feel isolated or alone anymore.
this is my advice to you, i pray that it means something and helps in one way or another.
good luck, stay strong, you can feel whole again!

Answer 7

There are groups that can provide help for you,someone to talk to and identify with, If you're homosexual you don't need to feel that you are "irregular" since there are many like you,find out who you are and join the "crowd".

Answer 8

u r who u r by the actions u take
find meaning in life via helping others in small & large ways
i'll make u feel better bout yourself and promote self worth.

Answer 9

if you are a teenager -- you just described how most people feel when they are that age. you probably are normal.

but, if you don't think its just normal teenager stuff try to talk to a trusted adult -- aunt, uncle, cousin, parent, teacher, or see if your parents will look into counseling sessions.

Answer 10

dont feel that way because your not. people should like you for who you are. find some people who are like you and share the same interests.. ill be your friend =]