I'm 17 and all of my friends seem to have already lost their viginity. But when ever I get a chance to have sex I get to scared. What can I do to be more commfotable about sex. I'd light to hear about other people's first time.
2007-02-07 12:17:19 · 10 answers · asked by chris s 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Wait. That's what you can do. Sex is NEVER something you should pressure yourself or others to do. There's no harm in waiting. Just because everyone else has done it, doesn't mean you have to. Wait until you are ready.
I'm not going to scare you from sex, but you should know that there's no need to have it before you are ready. And there is no need to force your readiness.
2007-02-07 12:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by froggypjs 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. Don't do it if you're scared. And optimally, do it with someone you are close with, have known for a while, and feel comfortable with. It's really best if you do it with someone you love and are committed to- the fears really melt away, because you know that you accept and love one another, so that nothing about a big, bad sexual experience can scare you.
In the meantime, read up as much as you can on sexuality- real sexuality, I mean. Watch a sex show like "Talk Sex with Sue" or listen to Dr. Love on the radio; read some good books that discuss all aspects of sex, from protection, to technique (not too much in that arena, though- don't want to scare you or make you think you need to try something out of the kama sutra!), to health issues, and especially the mental/psychological aspect of it all. My motto is that the more you know about sex, the better, even if you don't plan on doing it any time soon.
Good luck, and remember- you don't have to lose your virginity until you're ready. This isn't a race, and your friends certainly haven't "won"!
2007-02-07 20:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Please Wait. Forget what your friends say! I am in the same boat, and I am waiting for marraige.
Too many of my friends have thrown their virginity away to guys who are assholes and they wish they had never done it. At this age guys are way to immature to think on our level, and chances are you are just going to get hurt.
Just think how amazing that one night will be if you save yourself for your Husband. Purity is the most important gift that you could ever give your husband! Its going to be hard when peer presure gets to you, but hang in there!
2007-02-07 20:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by danielle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't force the issue. Eventually, you will become more comfortable with the idea of sex, and then you will be ready to have it. Don't let your peers talk you into doing something you are obviously not ready to do.
2007-02-07 20:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by Beth B 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I had a first attempt and it was horrible. I wasn't into it because it was my friend but anyway, take your time you're still young. It doesn't matter that all your friends have been de-virginized.
2007-02-07 20:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by leavemebe_11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, kid
Nothing wrong with waiting. Don't be in a rush!!!
When its right for you, you'll be eager rather than scared.
Don't let other people set up your life time table.
2007-02-07 20:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by rostov 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
just so yo know yahoo is going to delet this Q. i asked a Q. about pregnant people and they deleted it. anyway what tell your ready i had sex at 12 it felt good to me people say to what tell you get married you could but i didnt its up to you find a girl and ask her are you a virgin and just tell her i am and tell her could we have sex. bye e-mail me at babygirlnumber1@inbox.com
2007-02-07 22:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jonah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. If you are scared, you are not ready and/or it's the wrong person.
2007-02-07 20:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by scruffy 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wait!!
2007-02-07 20:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by Kiki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TRUST ME WAIT TIL U GET MARRIED.ITS RIGHT IN GODS EYES AND U WILL HAVE SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD TO WHEN U GET MARRIED.DONT WORRY WAT UR FRIENDS R DOING
2007-02-07 20:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by DEER SLAYER 1 · 1⤊ 4⤋