I DON'T KNOW IF I LOVE MY HUBBY ANYMORE. WE HAVE A BABY TOGETHER AND I DON'T KNOW WHETHER ITS OVER OR NOT. HOW DO YOU KNOW?
2007-02-07 12:11:55 · 27 answers · asked by lauraashley2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sit down,relax,say a prayer.
How old is your baby ?
if the baby is new or fairly young,you could be expieriencing the post partum blues - it happens to all of us - and you might not know its there,but it can make you feel out of sorts,out of wack.
If you dont have that magical feeling there anymore,and you dont want your hubby bothering you,or you just dont want him in your life - that may be a good sign......
but if he is still in the picture and your wondering about it - then you have to ask yourself - what is making me feel this way ?
You could seek out counseling so that you have an outside source to talk to - talk with your hubby,and explain to him how your feeling,but your going to have to give him some insight as to why your feeling that way.
You didnt tell us how long you had been married,but if its been awhile,it could also be the new wearing off and the same old same old settling in. In which case I suggest not only the counselor,but that you and your hubby get out and do some things together.
Hope this helps
2007-02-07 12:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by country_girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As far as I am concerned, a marriage is never over unless one of the married has passed on. I know it takes two people to build and maintain a marriage, but if there are two willing parties who are willing to work to put things back together, I see no reason for a divorce. How do you wake up one day and say you are no longer in love with the person whom you stood before God and swore to love until death do you part and say you are no longer in love? I just don't get it.
2007-02-07 20:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Marriage is over when you begin to entertain the idea of it! Marriage is a commitment and you have to decide to be commitment!!! Its amazing that most people don't think marriage through before getting married! and when things get hard most people come up with all these excuses to leave!! We say in the vows for better or for worse and when things get worse than we begin to question how much we love the other. If you didn't mean them than you should not take your vows. Maybe you are not women enough to make a marriage work!! You probably to selfish to put your feeing aside and love your spouse and he like wise!! I recommend marriage counseling!!! Or if you are going to leave don't get married again until you know what your vows means and are actually able to keep them!!
2007-02-07 20:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to Dr Phil you're ready for a divorced when you can walk out the front door with no regrets. If you can leave and not wonder "what if I'd done this?" or "what if I tried that?" See the link below for more definitive advice from Dr Phil's website.
Best of luck to you sweety. I know exactly how you feel.
2007-02-07 20:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by chicpower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh hon it is far from being over. Seek marriage counseling and help for you and for this marriage. You need to rekindle your love for each other. Try going out on dates once in a while and I know that you still love your husband you just are not feeling it right now.
2007-02-07 20:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know its over when, you cannot stand to be near the person. You dread every minute they are around you. You wish you were anywhere but with him.Not all people who have children Love each other. Have you asked yourself what it is that he does or says that makes you feel this way? Have you tried talking to him? Is he treating you differently Now than when you first met? I am sorry but to answer your question, I have to ask you these questions. Only YOU can answer them. Really it all depends on your circumstances.
2007-02-07 20:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i believe that the only reason a marriage would be over is if there is cheating or abuse involved. you made a commitment to each other. you once loved each other enough to get married and that love is still there somewhere. maybe you should try counseling. don't give up things can be fixed
2007-02-07 20:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its probably over when you have to get on here and ask this question. Theres no written guidlines for telling when a marriage is over, but a pretty good sign is when you start questioning your feelings, but only you know for sure. Good luck
2007-02-07 20:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you no longer anticipate your husbands coming home, or maybe you can no longer stand to be in the same room together. Those are some pretty good indications.
2007-02-07 20:16:44 · answer #9 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a really good question I'm wondering the same thing about my self and my 8 yr old relationship w/my boyfriend we have two girls together what do you do i guess we have to look deep down inside ourselves.sorry couldn't be more help,
2007-02-08 02:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by fun mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋