Changing One's Own Paradigm?

Question

As a person who is dominated by thought, self-awareness, and analysis, how would I go about changing my view on life? I can only see the flaws in people. I never used to be like that. Even when I see mostly good things, I feel as if they are only going to let me down. Is it possible to restore faith my faith in the rest of the world? I don't like looking at the world this way, but I do. And it is miserable. Can anything, other than a miracle, restore my faith, love, and trust in others?

Answer 1

Try looking at your own traits in a new light--from other's perspectives. Keep a tight grip on the "critical analysis" of the way others' perceive you, in order to get the value of this new paradigm! There you will see that your's is only one view in life with millions of shades of different meanings and values. Try to accept--even briefly--that NO one set or group of viewpoints are "Right"!! There is no such thing as one right point of view. For yourself, you might let up on your rigidity and super high standards for yourself and start to enjoy life as it actualy IS. A full life is one with not only "facts", but AFFECT as well--a give and take, interacting with other integrated personalities and with FEELINGS. It is too bad, that evidently you had to "keep yourself in line" according to the dominant parent's values. And evidently, constantly evaluated, yourself! It sounds as if you weren't allowed to experience childhood in all of its fullness, joys, fears and tears--let alone Freedom to explore. Wm. Glasser classifys our Basic Emotional Needs as Belonging, Power, Freedom and Fun. You have a world of living to get out of life--IF you can give yourself permission.
Hope you do! It's an incredible WORLD!

Answer 2

To me, there are very few people that can be upbeat in crisis situations. That is the hardest thing I have ever tried to do.

It is easy to be depressed, sad, miserable, etc. Those things are easy and you don't have to do one thing in order to acheive them.
All you have to do is let them happen to you.

On the other hand, doing other things takes a lot of courage, ambition and drive. Most of us lack those and don't have what it takes to succeed.

You will NEVER get something without giving it and even then you might not get it back right away. You might not ever get it back. Just look at all the Martyrs. You have to set the example, rather than to rely on others to set the example for you.

If you cherish others, people will notice that.
If you disrespect others, they will see that too.

Answer 3

Your thought pattern has shifted 1st to 2nd nature. You must realize that over the years we all come to shift our paradigm. It is natural and actually quite healthy for us but it can be quite confusing. It is believed that we see ourselves in our sight of others, plainly stating that what we see is who we are. So if you are seeing people negatively you are infinitely seeing yourself negatively. We don't know it but we actually look at people and make the first judgment by our own judgments of ourselves. It is quick and subconscious but we do do it so just remember. If you want to change the way you see life, you have to first remember to change how you see yourself in the life you live in order to understand and make an assumption of the world we are in. Only then can you understand why we look at the world miserably or greatly.

Answer 4

i assume your surroundings are negative and crappy. i'm the same way. get away from there. start hanging out with positive people. get involved in positive things and you will become positive. it takes time but it works. it's up to you.