I was raised in a conservative family and was always reminded that sex can wait unill the wedding night and my friends had always been teasing me for being a virgin. One day the set me up on a date with this guy and almost got raped but I wa lucky to fought him off. I told my friends what had happened but they just laughed at me, telling me that I was such a fool to let that chance pass. What is wrong with being a virgin? Should I stop hanging out with my friends since I feel they are always presuring me about that matter?
2007-02-07 11:58:41 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It is very refreshing to hear that there is still a virgin out there.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin and I believe that if your convictions and morals are as you say, you are hanging around the wrong people.
When you meet the right person, he will respect the fact that you are a virgin and not push it, otherwise he is not the right person.
I commend you for your conservatism and your family for raising you that way.
Stay the course and when you meet the right person and decide to get married you will be able to say that you gave yourself to the only man you ever loved.
Don't be persuaded by your so called friends.
2007-02-07 12:07:23 · answer #1 · answered by L&C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay there is NOTHING wrong with being a virgin, it is a really good thing! Dont let your friends or anyone else for that matter change your mind of pressure you. When you want to lose your virginity is your choice, and yours only. you will be the one who has to live with that moment forever. Im not saying you should stop hanging out with your friends, but they dont sound like very good friends to me if they are trying to pressure you into something you dont want to do (ecspecially if they almost got you raped). maybe you should start hanging out with new people as well as your old friends, and see which ones treat you better.
2007-02-07 12:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by larissaxxlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin, and don't let anyone make you feel like there is. Obviously your friends don't respect you so i don't think they are really your friends. It is good that you respect your self. You don't need to sleep with a guy to get him to like you, besides you want him to like you for you not for what he can get from you. Your friends probably all wish that they had waited. Misery loves company. Be proud and stay true to yourself and your beliefs. If you don't wait for marriage then at least wait for someone special. Your so called friends probably think that they are cool or something because they have had sex, but there is noting cool about herpes and aids. They probably think that guys like them when in all reality the guys best friend probably just got done telling him how easy they are to get in bed. don't be desperate, be smart.
2007-02-07 12:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by Lin_Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing in this world wrong with saving yourself until marriage. I am. I think you just need to tell your friends to back off because when you have sex you are giving a piece of yourself to that man that you can never get back. So if you wait you will be giving your husband the special gift that God gave you that was meant only for him. Stand up to your friends or ditch em. They may be good people though so don't ditch them too soon!
2007-02-07 12:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by Sen10r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's better to be a virgin than a victim, and I'd lose those "friends" if I were you. Either they don't know what an animal this guy they set you up with is, or they're delusional. Either way, the best thing to do is meet other people on your own, and make your own judgments. After all, only you can decide, right?
2007-02-07 12:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by knight2001us 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a girl wants to have sex before marriage that's fine. If a girl wants to wait till after marriage that's fine. You have to do whats right for you not what your friends feel is right for you or them. Tell them you want to be friends with them but stay out of when and if you have sex. If your going to bug me about having sex then I will bug you about how your being used by the boys as a toys not a girl they love. You want to be a person not a toy.
2007-02-07 12:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by sara a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with being a virgin! don't let anyone tell you otherwise. your virginity is a precious gift that you only have once. make sure the man you give it to appreciates that gift and respects you for it. if your friends keep bugging you about it, explain to them your view and ask them to stop teasing. if they don't, maybe you should hang out with other people. just remember that once you loose it, you can't get it back. good luck hun
2007-02-07 12:05:21 · answer #7 · answered by The Spazz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you being a virgin. Yes you should make new friends because they are not true friends. A real friend would never put you at risk this way.
2007-02-07 12:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
good god. You need new friends. They don't have your best interest at heart. I would think that friends would want you to have a good first experience when you are in love...I know someone that gave hers up because she felt silly about being a virgin at 21. She is now 34 and still feels sad that she lost it to a jerk
2007-02-07 12:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to find some new friends fast!!!!
I don't know about waiting until marriage, it's a good idea to test drive a car before buying, but at an age where you are old enough not to have to ask these questions.
No offense, good question and I have way more respect for you than your friends.
2007-02-07 12:02:07 · answer #10 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋