i'm a bi & how do i tell a lesbian that i'm not interested. it's ok if we're friends, but she makes me really uncomfortable when she sit really close to me & i mean real close & always look straight in my eyes & try to talk to me all the time...i knew she was trying to hit on me but i'm just not interested. how do i let her know without saying it?
2007-02-07 11:56:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You DO say it.
2007-02-07 14:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say it, just be polite.
I'm a straight man, but have a lot of gay friends and have spent a lot of time in gay bars. Every once in a while, I get hit on by a guy. Though I'm not interested, I am flattered, and that's what I say. I've never, never had a negative reaction when I told a guy "Thank-you. I'm flattered, but not interested".
If this doesn't work, tell her to get lost. If she can't respect your sexuality and personal choice (being bi doesn't mean your interested in ALL men and women), there's no reason to waste time trying to be nice. State your peace and move on.
Hope this helps.
I have to respond to Spades of Columbia - I don't think it's a good idea to get into a relationship to get someone else to back off. Build a relationship with someone else if you want, but do so based on how you feel about that OTHER person, not how you feel about this particular intrusive dyke. Beside, if she's willing to push your boundaries now, she'll probably be willing to push them when you're in a relationship with someone else, and that's just going to hurt the other relationship.
2007-02-07 20:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by Dim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Create a relationship or a love interest so that she we back off because you are with someone else. If you don't like lying then make your self really smelly around her so she gets turned off.
2007-02-07 19:59:56 · answer #3 · answered by Spades Of Columbia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I appreciate our friendship, but that's all I can offer you. If you want more, I am sorry I can't give that to you. If you want to be friends, I am all for that. Nothing more, nothing less. If you want more, then I am sorry but I will have to stop being friends with you."
Sometimes straightforward statements are the best way.
2007-02-07 20:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by Meta Irie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her your involed with somebody and your really in love with him or her, and you dont want to hurt them.
2007-02-07 21:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by portia2k2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋