The thing is, I'm 98% positive that a good friend of mine is romantically attracted to me. Not that I have anything against gays or bi people, but I just have a feeling that he's into me that way. When we sit in the cafe together, he'll have his leg either very close to mine or touching it (and I'm too embarassed to move my leg. I don't want to make him think I'm homophobic)....and sometimes he'll call me on the phone just to "talk,"....and guys generally don't do that. And also, when I'm helping him with his homework, I see him staring at me out of the corner of my eye. I'm VERY liberal and don't care about people's religion or sexuality or anything...
I haven't asked him if he's gay/bi, (he claims he's straight) but I don't want him to think I'm secretly gay and there's a chance with me romantically. I don't want him to waste his time. What should I do?
2007-02-07 11:53:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I would start a conversation that leads into a discussion of Gay rights (Just open a newspaper and there will be at least one story). I would then say I think homosexuals should enjoy the same rights as myself. He will get the hint.
Not knowing your age, I assume your young. If you friend is gay/bi he might just have a crush on you. Be flattered and drop it.
2007-02-07 12:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If things don't escelate, I'd say ignore it till it goes away. If they do, then DONT ignore the escelation. Move your leg next time. You can talk about your views on gay issues, but when it comes to physical contact and body language...you're allowed to have your personal space. Also, that might be a good, subtle message that you're not interested without having to be blunt.
2007-02-07 15:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ill try to answer your question. i think you are well aware the guy is hitting on you. i commend your maturity and being liberal. but...you do need to take a stand in a calm demeanor(which from your words, i do believe you will be) and let him know that your not interested in him. he may or may not be defensive to it. that will only show when the time comes for you to confront him. so, he needs to know where you stand with homosexuality. obviously he doesn't know where you stand only because he is still hitting on you. if he was positive that you are not gay. then he wouldn't still be hitting on you. so you need to tell him. privately, that you are not interested in him. now, that being said. there will be no more confusion for that guy. now he will move on to his next crush. i hope this will work for you. good luck. me
2007-02-07 12:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by shyboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has the right to make you feel uncomfortable. Just don't let your mind over-think things. Do what feels right to you, even if it means acting a little bit harsh. Cause that talking on the phone thing is pretty weird. Treat him like you want him to treat you.
2007-02-07 12:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by Adversity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends, then just ask him straight out, no phun intended! Are You Gay? Simple.
2007-02-07 11:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by MJGarcia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true friend will not be upset if you just tell it like it is.
Don't lead him on by NOT saying anything.
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2007-02-07 12:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by Jake 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋