2007-02-07 11:52:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You either live on WITH it as you have been--which seems "normal" to you and him. Or, it might be a break for you to develop some hypochondria, yourself!! See what the enjoyment/rewards are for him! Be as genuine as possible--not really "faking" it, but we all have aches and pains--your, menstral time etc., that's not too enjoyable, etc. This very well could push him into getting less "enjoyment" with your doing more for yourself, and less for him.
It sure worked with mine! He was chronically LATE for every engagement--passive-aggressive. Finally when we had a dinner scheduled with HIS parents, I suddenly "lost" track of time. I was busily and happily involved with something--oh, I think I was swimming in the apt. pool. He got more and more agitated..."Just 5 more laps!" etc., then I dwadled getting out, dressing and esp with my HAIR!!. He was in a fit of anger by the time we left...Me: "Aren't you feeling well??" His parents--real sticklers--were waiting for us at the restaurant. I was cheery and greeted them with kisses and had a "great" time. He was grouchy--whereas he was normally a "joker" around them.---The end result of that day was that he NEVER DWADLED AGAIN when we were going somewhere!
Don't know if this approach would work with a hypochondriac--he's getting something out of it--your excessive taking caring for him? Try going on by yourself when he's in that state, saying, "That's OK--you don't feel good! Stay home--let me tuck you in, and I'll bring you back a take-out! I'll say you were under the weather and we'll get together when you're better!"
2007-02-07 12:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with it hon. As far as "life" i am not sure what your "life" is like so it is hard to say what to do to make that "normal". That is why i say to "go with it". In the broader spectrum of it all that is about all you can do. Be honest with friends and family about your spouse disorder so they understand what you are going through and that they may be able to adjust in a "situation" that may ensue.
2007-02-07 19:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by LM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him every ten seconds how he is feeling. Ask him to make sure his head isn't hurting right now, ask him to make sure his stomach isn't burning right now, ask him to make sure his eyesight is perfect right now. Get the hint, drive him nuts with your obsessive look-out for his health. He'll get real tired to you checking on his health, the only way he can resist is to insist he feels fine. Pretty soon he will stubbornly insist he feels fine. Oh, and be sure to get brochures from funeral parlors to lay on the coffee table. Maybe a new one every day he feels sick. This works, it is not a mean joke, ok?
2007-02-07 23:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jean M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shouldn't you have thought about this BEFORE you got married?!?!?!
2007-02-07 19:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋