I find it offensive when people are shocked that I did not grow up extremely poor, dont like rap, am married to the father of my kids, in college, have money, and own a beautiful home, and I'm Black---why is that so surprising, everyone in a race is not the same.
2007-02-07 11:47:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
It's called stupidity.
Some people, black and white, like to lump people in categories and get upset when they find people who don't fit the mold.
I understand this mentality when it comes from some of the whites, but when blacks think this way it infuriates me. Blacks should be happy when other blacks have made a good life and be encouraged by their success.
You GO Girl!
2007-02-07 12:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know excatly what you mean. I was never poor but my mom thought it'd be better and less complicated for us to be in a predominantly black neighborhood. It wasn't better for me because I went to an academy while all of the other kids were in inner-city schools being taught from ragged books and by third class teachers. I learned French and Spanish, was two years ahead of my peers, spoke proper grammar, didn't listen to rap or R&B. I was chased home almost everyday by the ghetto kids and one girl even cut off my ponytail cause she claimed that it was fake. I got out of school, didn't have a baby at a young age, went to college to study Art. Now I work in a library, am not on welfare, don't have a bunch of kids that I can't take care of.... It annoys me that some people automatically assume that I'm ghetto, that I live in the ghetto, and that I get ghetto when pissed off. But people will only believe this misconception for as long as one allows. But what is really unfair is that white people can have differences in status, like trailer trash and white trash, hicks , hillbillies and so forth, but black people are all seen as ghetto.
2007-02-08 10:23:04 · answer #2 · answered by Annabella Stephens 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't automatically think a person is ghetto because of color. It is all in their attitude. I don't look at people different due to skin color. Here is the answer. Were you born in America? Are you racist? why does it matter what color of American you are? Any one can be ghetto, I'm white grew up poor as all hell, ghetto to the bone, i might not talk like it or look like it but rest your mind i too get looked at like a ghetto hoodlum. It dont bother me, what bothers me is people who use race as an excuse we are americans and untill everyone in the world understands we are all the same we will have to deal with stupid people who cant look past the surface to see whats there.
2007-02-07 20:16:47 · answer #3 · answered by Logic 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly what you mean, I once talked to Psychologist and he was just so surprised that I came from two parent house hold and grew up a middle class neighborhood. Like you for some reason he assumed I grew up poor, found it hard to believe that I never experimented with drugs, marijuana or never been in trouble with the law.
And that the fact that I was actually married to the mother of my child. Now I don't know why he would assume this, I was dressed nice. I wasn't using a bunch of slang. At times he would give me a look as if I was lying to him. Now I might expect this behavior for someone uneducated, but from a professional who works with a variety of different types of people.
2007-02-07 20:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by Knowledge 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because people can be very ignorant. Growing up a knew alot of people that didn't like other races and they stereotyped people and they didn't even have a reason...they just did because probably they heard their parents being racist. Myself, I was raised by my parents to treat everyone with respect and do not judge by color but rather by character. So I'd say that they act shocked at you being well off because of ignorance. My last residence I had neighbors that were black on either side of me and i'd have to say that they were the best neighbors i've ever had. And it was in a very nice neighborhood too.
2007-02-07 20:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by John J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what i would like to know is who said that all of the ghetto was bad. um i lived with my grandmother in the ghetto. now i have an '07 car and truck, a 1800 sq ft starter home and a very good management job with a nationwide clothing store. just because you are born in the ghetto or even raised doesn't mean you dont have any goals or dreams. give the ghetto some credit. that's where jazz, blues and motown were founded.
2007-02-09 04:23:52 · answer #6 · answered by desiree60411 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stereotypes and ignorace. There are stereotypes out there that black women don't live with their husbands and that blacks children don't know their fathers, etc. many people think according to those stereotypes because of the media, entertainment, what people are used to seeing. When someone sees something that is out of the ordinary for them, they get shocked(especially when they haven't lived around other blacks). The steretypes lead to ignorance because the stereotypes only show one side of a person. I know what it is like. I am an African-American male and I don't like rap music. I am what some people call articulate. Because of this some people have made comments that I was black but "I didn't talk like it". I have even been called names like "Carlton". One guy asked me if I knew my father and if he lived with me. I said yes to both questions and said that I was white. It exposed his own ignorance(or closet racism) beacuse he was assuming that because I was black my father didn't live with me. He does. You shoudl remember that many people usually say things like that because they are very ignorant(and sometimes closet racist for not wanting to see two sides of the story).
2007-02-08 11:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by liker_of_minnesota 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps because so many people grow up learning the personality traits and habits of thier race. They are ingrained, and so people look at only thier race and think that they have those traits. Unfortunatly the bad ones seem to stick out more than good ones.
2007-02-07 19:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by anamaradancer 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know i'm quite the opposite Preppy or white washed (whatever you want to call it) I'm considered preppy because my dad makes good money and i'm not poor or i don't live in the "ghetto"
But i'm still black and proud to be black.
2007-02-07 20:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you have all that success, then you are obviously educated enough to ignore the mass of closed minded people you run across in life!
2007-02-07 19:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋