I have tried to quit, but I am having a hard time, do you think she is being fair??
2007-02-07 11:17:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she is not being fair, as long as you are respectful to her and not doing it around her then she shouldnt stop communication with you, she is probably worried about you and your health regarding smoking but that is no reason to stop talking to you....
2007-02-10 08:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When We grew up cigarettes were considered the thing to do the government even subsidized it and encouraged smoking by having small four pack cigarette pack in ever soldiers C ration, It was galamorous in all the movies Humphrey Bogart probably kept alot of cigarette companies prosperous. It was considered glamorious and manly and the gov. pushed it and now we're addicted, and it is the hardest DRUG to overcome even the herion and ICE.
I wish her compassion because she doesn't understand, forgive her and make a list of all the negitive things that cigarettes cause you, like your daughter, not being able to use the other hand because it's occupied with a cig, you don't know but your cloths stink, your mouth tastes bad, things like that because that will be your ammunition in your mind to fight your part of the brain the hedonistic part and say no for the rest of your LIFE and it is good when you can smell the sweet smell of flowers and your grandchildren.
Good Luck I'm working on it too
2007-02-07 11:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your Daughter is being a bit too (Insensitive) about your Cigarette use. If the tables were turned & she smoked & not you,would you treat Her as she treats you??? If your Daughter does not like the smell/s of Tobacco than that is her problem & not yours. Admittedly, Tobacco use turns off alot of people & so on,but that does not give your Daughter the very right to turn her back on her own Mother...Try & not smoke around her that's all. Even if your Daughter is turned completely off by Tobacco & what Tobacco can do to your health,she still does not (Possess) the right to turn her back on you. I really do (Believe) that your Daughter thinks that by not talking to you is way too harsh & that she really should get a GRIP on reality. Yes, your Daughter is just being (Pig Headed) & very insensitive to your needs to talk to your own Daughter. She may be 30 something, but you are Mom & she should find another way to deal w/this Tobacco thing. I hope that you do (STOP) smokeing & that your Daughter should be more more sensitive to your needs as MOM.
2007-02-07 11:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by rumeoui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it was losing the "I" part of me. I forgot that I had the strength and the power to stand on my own legs, proud and tall... That I had a voice of my own and that the whole world was waiting to hear it :D. When my ex broke up with me, I was shattered and broken. It was a very good thing because I realized that I must never be too dependent on anybody, and that my dreams are what I am here for mainly. That relationship ended in such dirt and crap, friendship seems to be the only clean thing in life... And I just wanna keep it that way. I have awesome friends, and all my stress is gone. I can feel the difference everyday, I'm much more confident and much more strong. Experience is a hard teacher; she gives the tests first and the lesson afterwards. But strangely, this method of teaching sinks the lesson deeper into our blood more than any way else.
2016-05-24 04:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's fair. She's probably afraid of losing you to lung cancer or another smoking related disease. The irony is that instead of losing you to an illness, she's losing you through her choice.
Talk to your daughter. Tell her you want her in your life. Remind her that you have loved her unconditionally and wish that she could do the same to you. Good luck on quitting the habit. It's a really tough place to be.
2007-02-07 11:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. As long as u respect her and not smoke around her or her family, then she should love u for who u are. (her Mom) She should be supportive of u quitting, and try to help u any way she can, but not stop talking to u. That is very immature.
2007-02-07 11:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, as long as you don't smoke in her house. I'm sure she did something growing up that you did not approve of and you continued to love her anyway. If/when you stop smoking it's you decision. We can't force people to do something they do not want to and I'm sure you are aware of the possible cons of smoking. We all have our vices (eating, drinking, drugging, sex addiction, etc.). Tell her to grow up and if that's all it took for her to stop speaking - you would have taken smoking up years ago!
2007-02-07 11:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by JusMe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she is being an immature brat, the fact that she won't talk to you is probably stressing you out and making you want to smoke more, so her plan is probably back firing.
2007-02-07 11:22:27 · answer #8 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think going that far is totally ridiculous,fair enough if she wouldn't let you smoke in her home,but to not talk to you,wowww,going to far
2007-02-07 11:36:45 · answer #9 · answered by TOM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. Tell her to grow up and stop being a jerk
2007-02-07 12:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋