my gf of 8 years just broke up with me again. Same reasons, to travel and live more before settling down. She apologised for putting me through this crap a second time, told me she still loved me but just cant give me what i want right now. I was hurt and told her not to contact me so i can move on with my life. This is still my intention but if she did happen to feel as though she made the wrong decision i would hope she would contact me and talk to me. So should i clear up the no contact thing or would she call if she really wanted to sought things out? Also is it better i have no contact to keep her wondering on what i am doing because i know she would have expected me to call her by now and that is probably stewing on her mind.
2007-02-07 11:10:21 · 10 answers · asked by whitey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all congrats on getting the b a lls to tell her not to contact you and YES i would stick with that.. if you truly want to move on with your life then you shouldnt have a need to keep in contact with her anytime soon.
AND if she truly thinks she made the wrong decision SHE'LL contact YOU!
2 1/2 yrs ago i broke up with my bf saying about the same thing...we stopped all contact and now we recently became good friends again... so giv it time and everything will work out!
but goodluck with it all and move on... stay busy so you dont have time to worry about things like contacting her or not...keep your agenda packed with things to do!! get closer to your family hang out with your friends more go for more museum tours or park walks or workout more or find another job take more school hours...anything!!!
take care~
2007-02-07 11:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by roxybeach793 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's either scared of settling down or really just wants to see what else is out there.
So it is a good thing that you have decided to move on. There are plenty of girls out there. I know it's difficult but time will heal, and eventually she'll realize she really messed up and come back. Then you guys can sit down rationally and discuss the relationship on your terms.
Good luck and enjoy the simple happy hours of your life!
2007-02-07 20:03:15 · answer #2 · answered by sktchgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's been really honest with you and it was probably hard on her too. Don't call her. If she's interested, she'll call you back. Since you've been down this road before, she knows you'd probably take her back if she came back.
I think it's better if you have no contact with her. Try to get on with your life. Meet other people. Travel, if you can. Enjoy your new single-hood. Once you settle down, you won't have the freedom to do that stuff.
2007-02-07 19:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move on with your life and quit letting the gf string you along. 8 years is a long time to invest in somebody who apparently doesn't share the same hopes as you. It sounds to me as if she likes having you waiting in the wings as a back up relationship. Don't dwell on her or her decisions, just move on and find someone who wants the same kind of relationship as you do. Good luck to you.
2007-02-07 22:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by terry m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this were the first time she's done this, I would say be sure to let her know the door might still be open, but this is the second time, and you need to move on. After 8 years, she ought to be ready to settle down, and if she isn't then you need to find a girl who is.
2007-02-07 19:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless u plan to post this same question 8 yrs from now when she comes back and run off again , I would say set her free set yourself free don't make yourself available to her move on there is a woman out there who is willing to accept u for u and not wait years to find out that u aren't the one .
2007-02-07 19:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just move on. If she really wanted to get back together, then she would break what you said and find some way to contact you.
2007-02-07 19:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by Yay me!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is troubled and needs to find herself...don't contact her for awhile yet....in a couple of months, if you still want to then call her...if she decides she has made a mistake, she will contact you....but if this is the second time...I'm not sure you really want to keep playing this game...good luck
2007-02-07 19:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't call her and don't tell her to call you.If its one thing I have learned in my life whats meant to be is meant to be there is no in between.If she has done this before you are not her soul mate and I believe in soul mates.I love my husband so much when I met him I hung on tight and tried to be the best gf i could be for him.....any woman who is truly in love would do absolutly what is necessary to keep that man.She is not 100% in love or she wouldn't be so restless her life is about something else something is driving her to want to travel.It may all sound stupid but I think its true.
2007-02-07 20:03:54 · answer #9 · answered by samwise25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO DO NOT DO IT. DONT LET HER KEEP YOUR HEART ON A FREAKIN STRING, BE DONE WITH IT SON.
2007-02-07 19:13:27 · answer #10 · answered by stickitnyabreener 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋