What should i do?

Question

I have been going out with my fiance for 10 months. we have known each other since kindgergarten. when we got engaged i was over the moon. why shouldnt i have been, i had a man who loved me for what i was, had a roof over my head, and i was head over heals in love with him. we NEVER fight. Suddenly im questioning if this is what ireally want. its been a month since he asked me to marry him btw. and i mean SERIOUSLY questioning.. my ex and my fiance are the only two guys ive ever slept with, i feel like im suddenly missing out on something by never having a one night stand or something, my ex has crept back into the picture, and even though he treated me like **** i find myself missing him terribly all the sudden. we havent done anything yet but im afraid if things dont change with my fiance soon, i might do something stupid. i have told my fiance how im feeling, but neither of us is sure what to do, cause we have never had a problem like this before...what do i do?

SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY! IF YOU TELL ME TO GO JUST START SLEEPING WITH SOME RANDOM DUDE THEN YOU SHOULD JUST GO GET A LIFE!!!!! btw, i have told my fiance how i am feeling

Answer 1

I will try to respond to your Q, but it is very complicated because it is still unclear wether the way you feel is an insecurity or curiosity.
Rule the ex out of the picture, you have already been there and done that, and anything else with him will only confuse and perpetuate the current dilema.
So what can your fiancee and you do together to enhance the feelings you are having with the outcome being win/win ??
Well there needs to be some permission to expand and explore a little more of what life has to offer without causing irrepairable damage to your relationship.
As with everything there is risk, but that is what moving forward is.
Explore, experiment,experience and then decide.
Good luck.

Answer 2

Try taking a break from your relationship to make sure this is what you really want to do. Getting married is a very big step and the last thing you want to do is enter it with doubts. I don't recommend one night stands - you're not missing anything there! You're better off and much safer not having them. However, you might try going out on a few dates and if you're wondering about your feelings for your ex-boyfriend you might even try seeing if he'd be open to a date to make sure there's nothing there. Regardless of what you decide to do, don't get married until you're 100% sure!