i have been married for 7 yrs,and my husband and i have 2 kids together.my hubby works in a liqour store,where he interact with alot of different women.today i went to his job unexpected to give him something to eat and he was really mad at me for coming unexpected.i wanna believe he flirts with women in the store but its kind of hard to really think that he does.my husband have cheated on me b4.he works 7 days a week,12 hrs and hardly have time for me.every sunday he will go out with his friend and come home drunk,then he'll give me som lame excuses.i have spoken to him many many times.i love my husband very much,but i don't trust him at all, any advise please?i've been married to this guy at a young age,and now i'm 21.need some help,thank you...
2007-02-07 10:45:18 · 5 answers · asked by lovegirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well if he cheated on you, he's not worth it! Unless your madly in love with him, which it doesn't sound like he returns. And if you're not happy, what's the point?
2007-02-07 10:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by rockchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, the best thing I can say is hire a private detective... if not that then, there is a television show named Cheaters. Here is the link to apply for their services...
http://www.cheaters.com/?page=submit-a-case
If he has cheated on you in the past, I think you have a very good reason to believe he is again. Does he really work all of the 12 hours he says he does? If you cannot afford a private detective, then do a little PI work yourself. Do drive bys of his work and see if his car is there... make sure you have a trusted friend at home with your young ones, someone who doesn't mind helping you a couple of days a week for a little while, and someone you can trust to tell about your suspicions. Does he have a cell phone? You can check out his phone book in his phone and write down the suspicious numbers. I would call them, BUT only as a last resort, because if they are in his phone, they will tell him of your call. You say he goes out one day a week? Well, that would be the day I start the drive bys. I would also hide very well and follow a few cars back to see where he goes and who he goes with. If you must use a disguise and go into whatever establishment he does.
You will get through this, but it sounds as though he takes you for granted... this happens in some marriages. When it does happen you need to trust your gut. Does it tell you to get out? If so, run. If it doesn't then you should take my above advice, but do all of it very carefully, as when someone is trying to "sneak" around they watch for the person they are "sneaking" from.
Good Luck, if you need someone to talk to, let me know... you can email me ... the link is on my yahoo answers profile...
2007-02-07 19:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by Cutelilminxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my math is correct, from what you say you got married when you were 14? Anyway, my advice to you is to leave him. I know, easier said than done, but it can be done, I know - I did it. I took my son who was 4 at the time and left my ex. I had no job, no money, and nowhere to stay. Thank God for my Mom. I ended up living with her for about 18 months until I got a full time job, daycare for my son, and I place for my son and me to live. Enough about me though, back to you. Your husband cheated on you before, and trust me, he will (if he hasn't already) cheat on you again. If he is working 12 hour shifts, 7 days a week, then that is obviously more important to him than you and your children. Maybe he works all the time and goes out and gets drunk on Sunday because that way he can avoid the responsibilities at home, plus it gives him an opportunity to cheat on you. I'm sorry, I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, just trying to tell you how I see your situation. You need to get out of this situation as soon as possible. Your husband has absolutely nothing to offer you, and you have no reasons to stay. For your sake and your children's sake, move on without him, and make a new life for yourself and your kids. Please don't stay with him for the sake of the kids - you will not be doing them any favors. After all, he is not there for them now anyway. This is not a healthy environment for you or your children. If you have someone, a friend, family member, etc. that you can stay with for awhile, please take your kids and do so, and make a new life for them and yourself. You will eventually meet a guy he will love and respect you and treat you and your kids the way you deserve to be treated. Best of luck to you. My prayers are with you and your children.
2007-02-07 19:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been married for 7 years and you're only 21??!?! WOW...
I think you should leave him. Easier said than done I know...but if you dont trust him and he;s cheated on you before then what kind of relationship do you have? My advise is to seek some counselling, not for both of you, but for just you so you can work out how you feel and possibly get an escape plan.
2007-02-07 18:52:32 · answer #4 · answered by d_khar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from the sounds of it you dont work, he totally supports you, you already know that hes cheating on you, its not a mystery, so why are you putting up with this, dont be scared, you have to get away from this drunken loser, noone deserves that kind of life, i would think about my future, is this where you want to be in 2 years
2007-02-07 18:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by waterboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋