how can I get him back? i miss him dearly. we talked abotu marriage..?

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okayy here are the facts..
-we dated for over 2 years
-he broke up with me over a wek ago
-a few days b4 he broke up with me we decided to take a break to focus on ourselves and school fir a while (we are both sophmores in a community college)
-i know he isnt seeing anyone else
-a few days b4 we decided to both take the break he said he felt liek he had to love me and had to be with me. but yet he says he does love me but "wants to stop loving me cause we arent together anymore"
i saw him last wed. he had the look in his eyes when i hgged him that said he loved me. and i know he does.
i told him it isnt possible that he can convince himself he doesnt love me anymore.
-we are eachothers first love, first bf/gf, first everything
-one minute hes saying "maybe we'll get back together" "dont get your hopes up for anything" the next minute its were never going to get back together.
-he is taking many hard classes and works over 45 hours a week. so i know he needs his space.

i know he needs time. and he is just confused. the day he broke up wth me and a few days after. he kept apologizing to me saying how sorry he was. i snapped back and said that he wasnt otherwise he wouldnt be putting me though this.. but he says he truly is sorry. our relationship was good. and normal. a few arguements here and there but it was very open honest and everything.i know for a fact that it isnt about another girl.. he always said "what if the grass is greener on the other side" (meanign being single) but if it isnt as great then "i'd be mising out on you" i really love him and i konw he loves me too. i just wish i knew how i could get him back or when he will come back to me. i know he is stressed right now and confused abotu our relationship.

i dont know what to do?? i havent talked to him fro over a week... and he says for me not to call him til "im over our relationship" cause he still wants to be firends ith me"hed hate to loose someone as special as me" he says..

we broke up cause he is very stresed with school and works alot. we were together for over 2 years and he felt liek he HAD to love me and HAD to be with me cause he was afraid if he left me i would hurt myself or drop out of school (whihc im not) but the break up didnt end badly. i fouhgt with him for 5 days after.. i gave my battle and lost.. at least i tired. i just hope he will come back to me.... i know he still loves me. wewere eachothers first everythign! over 2 years we had!

but i am giving him his space. he found an excuse to call me yesterday. the power went out and left me a voice mail saying classes were cancelled til 1pm. he knew i was in class at the time... he just said "so yeah i guess ill talk to you later..."

and i know botherign him will only push him away even further than he already is now.

i am 19 and he is 18 years old. he took his GED (high school profiencey) and started college a semester b4 me lol

Answer 1

Hey babe it really sounds like he dont even know what he wants.
If i was you i would stay away for a while as all he is diong to you is hurting you maybe give him some time to see what he wants.
When he saids he loves you ask him not to as this would not make things any easier for the both of you.
Try and concentrate on other things in your lives if fait is ment to be you two will get back together
Hope it all works out for you take care.

Answer 2

I know you love him, but did you ever think that maybe you are just not use to having him around. Starting over after being in a long relationship it is hard getting use to being with him. I dated someone for two years and I thought I loved him, we spent everyday with each other then he did the same thing. When we broke up he did the same thing "I don't know if we will get back together" "I still love you, I miss you" and then"I need time, I don't know if we will be together again". We did get back together and things just weren't the same. We broke up for good a little while ago and honestly is was for the best. I was so focused on him and trying to keep him happy that I lost focused on what I wanted. Maybe you guys will get back together, maybe you won't, you love him and if he really loves you then everything will work out. Remember everything happens for a reason. We are suppose to live life for ourselves not someone else.

Answer 3

I know you miss him, but look at it this way...what's meant to be will be. And if you know he needs his space, give him that. Dont try to formulate a plan to get him back. Go with the flow of things. If you were each other's first, you'll always have a special place in your heart for him, and him for you. But at the same time, couples who were always together, were each other's firsts and never took a break, ususally dont work. There is so much out there, and you both are at prime age. Have some fun, and if you two come back together, awesome. If you dont, then there's a reason for it. Yes it hurts, and it will for a while. But just hang in there. It gets better!!!

Answer 4

Give him his space, you guys are both in your 2nd year of college, so you're both 20, 21 at the most. If he's working full time and taking a rough load, that could explain it. If it's meant to be, it will work out in the long run. If not, then it won't. But there's nothing you can do to force the issue, as a matter of fact, anything you do to try and force the issue, will probably backfire in your face, and you'll lose him permanently.

Spend the time apart developing yourself. Work on talents, work on your studies, and finish growing up. But definitely let him have his space right now, because it sounds like he needs it. Best of luck to you!

Answer 5

You need to snap out of it and him as well. DO NOT EVEN CONSIDER MARRIAGE unless you both have sown your wild oats if you know what I mean.

Let the dude live it up a little. He deserves better than to be locked down into a miserable marriage that will most likely end up in divorce with you taking half of everthing.

And you should live it up as well. Go out there and have your one night stands and multiple previous partners until you've had your fill. Then you can leave this all in the past whenever you do decide to get married.

Then you can look back and remember all your previous partners and the role they played in making you who you are.

Answer 6

You have to give him space. It sounds to me like he is trying to sort some things out. You are each others "firsts" but that can be a negative thing - to never have been in a relationship with someone else. Curiosity sometimes gets the best of you. Take your time. If it is meant to be, it will work out.

Answer 7

You guys can be together and still focus on your studies. If you both want to.

I think your boyfriend wants to move on and away from you. However, he still feels some affection towards you. Give him his space and stay away from him. If he still loves you, he'll miss you so much that he will contact you. If he doesn't, then it wasn't meant to be.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Phew. Nobody's worked that out. You sound like a good girl and he sounds like he needs somebody right now, but we can't make up other people's minds for them. I spose you can just put your case much as you did now and see what he says. End it with a kiss.

Answer 9

yes. He needs space. You need to give him so much space that he feels what life is without you. He needs to miss you. don't call. Just smile and keep walking. Act like you are over him. If he misses you and wants you back, he will chase after you... if he doesn't, then it wasn't meant to be. But your only hope is to move on, go on dates and in general, don't be so available to him. He needs to see how much life sucs without you.

Answer 10

i think u should call him morgan, and tell him everything u tell me, like how much u miss him and how sad u r without him,i think that if he isnt feelin it now, he will be missin u soon and will be crawling bac 2u!! call him send him an e-mail just akin howzit goin, dont talk about yur relationship rite away, call him e-mail him, watever u gotta do 2 get mark bac.