my daughter has been chatting to someone on internet. is there anyway i can i check her chatt?

Answer 1

How old is your daughter? You need to be a parent, sit her down and tell her about all the dangers the internet has. I think it's wrong to read her personal chats or emails as it's none of your business.

Yes, she's your child, but you should have been a parent and taught her these things before exposing her to the WWW.

Answer 2

To my knowledge there is no way to do this for free. I know that there are a great number of products out there, such as Net Nanny that will monitor your daughter while she is online.

Another method that I would try is only having a computer in a public room such as the kitchen or family room. That way she'll never feel really comfortable. I'd also recommend an open dialogue with her about what sort of things she chats about. If she's in high school, I'd expect that you'd be shocked by the things that come out of her and her friends. They're much less appropriate when typing than they are in conversation, so it's a good idea to keep tabs.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

I understand your concern for your daughter. If you think she may be chatting to unsuitable people or there's something untoward going on then it's perhaps best to talk to her rather than 'spying' on her. Think how your daughter would feel if she knew you'd been checking up on her.

I don't know the situation and perhaps 'spying' is the best option in which case you may be able to access saved copies of the chats. Chat programs usually have an option to save the conversation as a text file, if this option is switched on you'll find the saved files within the chat program folder.

The other option would be to use keylogging software but this may be going a bit far.

Answer 4

1.) Move the computer to a high traffic area of the house. NEVER in her bedroom!
This allows you to walk behind her and glance at what she's saying. It also makes it much harder for her to get talked into doing some... embarassing things.

2.) Talk to your daughter about your concerns. She'll probably cop an attitude, but it'll be in the back of her mind when she thinks about doing things.

3.) Limit her computer access to times that you're in the house and awake - kids are well known for sneaking onto computers.

4.) If she's underage, you have full rights to look at what she's doing - if she's using Yahoo Messenger, there are programs that can decrypt the conversations.
If she's using MSN, you can read the conversations directly (if she's saving them).

5.) There are programs that record what she types (keyloggers), what sites she goes to, and there are (paid) programs that block her from sharing personal info. Google is your friend for finding info about programs.

6.) It's almost guaranteed she's on Myspace. This is a site that's well known to pedofiles and perverts. Find her pages on Myspace and look them over... carefully. It only take a few pieces of info to find someone...

7.) If you find anything, talk to your daughter about it. Don't let her cop an attitude, and don't let her get away with it. Remove the power cord to the computer every night if you have to.

Remember - once she's broken your trust, she has to earn it back piece by piece. You're her mom (I assume), it's your responsibility to keep her safe and teach her how to behave.

She will rebel, but she'll get used to it.

Answer 5

Check the history of the computer after she is done using it. If you have her sign on etc you can enable the chat to be logged and then review it in that manner. Or just disable her from chat entirely by blocking access to chat rooms and IM's. Oh, almost forgot, depends on what age she is too. If she is younger or a teen, make sure the computer is in a central room that way you can monitor her activities that way.

Answer 6

most of the instant messenger programs have an archive choice, if you are the master holder I think you can choose to archive and you'll have a record of everything,
there are some programs you can download too, talk with an online tech at some of the download sites and they can recommend some for you and tell you just what programs they will work on, there are also some programs that will give you a list of every site visited on your computer.

Answer 7

you should speak with her, rather than check on her.

Windows Vista has good parental supervision.

You can always use Net Nanny and other tools to monitor, regulate internet usage.

In any case, the most important aspect is the good communication and trust in her. If you start checking on her, that will reduce the level of trust.

Answer 8

there is a program that i use which is called IN LOCO PARENTIS, it is like a keylogger and you can set up watch word's, have reports emailed directly to you of what your daughter has typed and basically see everything that has gone on in the conversation! its very good and costs 20 gbp, and they will even set it up for yu if you are not confident in doing it yourself. i have been using it for 3 months and it has given me great peace of mind, have a look at the website and read about it to see if it any good for you, also protects against online bullying and grroming,swaering lots of stuff. www.ilp4parents.co.uk i think. if not do a search on in loco parentis and it will come u.

Answer 9

I suspect jojo doesn't have a daughter....I'd betray my daughters trust for safety any day of the week! Read Dr Hilary Jones' blog on here today...it covers this matter and there may be some usefulcoverage/advice

Answer 10

I know we like to think that we trust our kids and while most are aware of dangers,some are easily led .We don't like to intrude on their privacy in the same way we wouldn't like them to ours , but i think above all safety and knowing they are safe over rules this .I read something about this the morning and was refered to the site below . I'm not saying it has the answer to your question , but maybe well worth a read :)
The last site is actually an open question on here !