this morning my mother in law and i having a fight and it was her fault, my mother in law saying some bad stuff about my mom, and i call my MIL to confront her and said i'm not appreciate her talking about my mom like that. Then MIL call my husband and said that i disrespect her, my husband got mad, he yelled at me, wouldn't let me explain, his sister called me and said i'm cruel to her mom. My husband did not stand by my side, he let his mom and sister yelled at me, he pack up his stuff and said he want to be alone for a while. I love him so much i don't want him to leave, i cried a lots and ask him to stay, but he left me. I tried to call him but he wouldn't pick up his phone, what should i do?
2007-02-07 10:33:12 · 13 answers · asked by Be Yeu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
obviously he's a mamas boy
is that what you want in life it won't get any better
what right does she have to talk about your mom and if he didn't correct his mothers inappropriate rudness he never will
2007-02-07 10:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by oct2855 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By calling your mil you made her the victim. The topic changed from what she said about your mother to how you have no respect for her and what you did. Your husband was wrong for leaving over this he needs to grow up. I think you and your husband need to live your lives with out all the in-law drama. If you do not want him to leave then tell him you were wrong for calling his mother over this, you should have let your mom handle it. However by your sister in law calling you she did the same thing. He needs to realize that you both are a team. If he thinks you are wong he should tell you in private not walk away like a child. Think about this if he can not handle this and needs to be alone what will he do if there is a REAL PROBLEM CAN YOU COUNT ON HIM?
2007-02-07 10:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't stay with someone who doesn't respect you. If he won't communicate with you then he doesn't respect you. But you say you love him - so maybe give him some time to cool off and then talk to him. But, make sure he listens and understands your side of the story. Second, confrontation never brings a positive end. The person on the other end, guilty or not will always be caught off guard and not respond the way you expect. So take a deep breath and let him be a bit. You might need some cooling off time also. Good luck :)
2007-02-07 10:41:00 · answer #3 · answered by kelly-il 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going to be so childish and not even give you a chance to explain, just think about what the future is going to be like. I can't tell you what you should do because only you know if the relationship is worth saving. All I can say is if he is favoring his family over you, that is what he will continue to do throughout your relationship. It seems to me that he needs to mature before he is ready to be serious with you. If he left you without letting you explain, that's not very fair to you. This thing between the two mom's should not be y'alls problem either. They need to work it out for themselves, and it will continue to be a problem so the two of you need to figure out how to deal with this so it doesn't end up tearing you apart. But it sounds like it may have already come to that. I hope that helps. Good luck and let me know how things work out.
2007-02-07 10:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should stay with him... This is not worth leaving your marriage over. Work on your marriage and maybe you should stay away from your mother in law for the time being. Since he has left give him the space he needs and the time and if it is right and meant to be then he will come back if not then get a divorce for abandonment. I hope things get better for you soon.
2007-02-07 11:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be a man and stand up to his mommy. He sounds like a momma's boy to me. If someone is disrespecting your mother it'd be kind of strange if you didn't defend your mom. I don't blame you. I'm glad you confronted her and brought everything out on the table. She had no place to say anything like that. She needs to keep her feelings to herself and keep her mouth shut. You need to tell your husband to stand by you and you were standing up to his mother for a legitimate reason. Let him cool off, give him some space. You have nothing to apologize about...unless you called her and yelled at her....That's the immature way to go about it, I hope you were cordial to her and got your point across the mature way.
This is a very stupid reason for a divorce, don't take the easy way out!
2007-02-07 10:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a real man. This guy is still a mama's boy. He should stand by your side. You confronted your mil and she tore you up. Since she bad-mouthed your mom, you had every right to defend your mom.
It's sad that you have to go through this but this guy AND his family is bad news. Give him his space and if you get back together, demand that he stand up for you. You should be #1, not his mommy and sissy.
2007-02-07 10:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a very serious situation...I say since you really love him, then you all should seek counseling (if he's willing) to solve this issues like mature adults, instead of throwing a tantrum and walking away like children. Obviously you are disliked by your in-laws but your love should be able to conquer that, I'm guessing this isn't the first time this has happened. So counseling is the best solution.
2007-02-07 10:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by SweetiePie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are involved in a very sick family and it's much too late to do anything about that now. If he left you for his mother then you have little hope of reaching him. You will always be second to her. It's up to you to decide if that is acceptable. If it is, then you have been warned. If not, best to get it over with quickly. Just know that he has made his choice clear.
2007-02-07 11:11:50 · answer #9 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to cut the cord
There are millions and millions of men out there who will treat you with respect. It's not easy breaking up and it will hurt for awhile but in the end...... you will be happier
2007-02-07 11:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by John 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will be back, he needs to let you explain what happened, and you need to be strong about this. Your MIL and SISIL need to stay out of your relationship, and when bashing people they need to have respect and especially for you. They are disrespectful
2007-02-07 10:40:39 · answer #11 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋