I got him a xbox 360 and a basket full of sexual things just for fun, why does he think that it is no big deal that he didn't get me anything?
2007-02-07 10:31:45 · 17 answers · asked by Mon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
two scenarios: He's a jerk and he's not very thoughtful. (is this his normal behavior?) OR he's mad at you for some reason, and you need to get to the bottom of why.
2007-02-07 10:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hell yeah u should be upset come on now this is you guys anniversary instead he goes out with his buddies and spend money and then turns around and buys a stereo system when u guys dont have no money sounds like to me he just cares about himself and u told him b4 the anniversary comes up and doesnt wanna to listen and tells u u guys are going on a trip and money comes and go i would be upset with him alot he couldnt even get a anniversary card for you but buys a stereo system for his car so if he could that much on that crap then could have got u a card at least or tell you happy anniversary when the next time hes broke or whatever and u been working hard with ur money and save it up put it to the side and when he comes around i wouldnt give him 1 single dime good luck
2016-05-24 04:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your husband LOVE YOU? Does he show you that he loves you every day? Does he ever tell you 'I love you'? Maybe he just 'forgot' it was your anniversary, and he was so 'overwhelmed' by your 'gifts' to him that he doesn't know what to say or do. You should not have to ask 'should I be upset' because you ARE upset ... so I think you need to sit down and have a long TALK with your husband ... tell him that you are 'upset' that he didn't 'get you anything' for your anniversary, and that you'd like to know 'what, if anything, is going on' ... but be prepared for ANY answer ... because it could be 'very, very good,' or it could be 'very, very bad' ... but KNOWING is far better than 'wondering' and the only way for you to know is to simply ASK.
2007-02-07 10:44:20 · answer #3 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think kelly-il's answer is hilarious and right on the money.
Birthdays, anniversaries, special dates, etc just don't matter to men. However, YOU should matter enough to your husband that he recognized the day in SOME way, no matter how minor. Did he even say "happy anniversary honey" and pair it with a caring hug and kiss? If he didn't even do that, then I think there are bigger problems than him not buying you anything. He's likely taking you for granted. That's unfortunate.
2007-02-07 10:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by tami1215 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a right to be upset, but guys see holidays (anniversaries included) differently. They dont think it is that big of a deal and that they love you and married you so there is no reason for you to think differently. Or that they need to continue to buy you things to show you. Of course, as women, we dont think of it like that at all, but guys just dont realize how important it is to us. My advice, cut him a break. I am sure he wouldnt intentionally make you upset or not do something for you. Tell him it is important to you to celebrate those type of things as a celebration of your love, but forgive him and dont hold it against him. Marriage is about communication and compromise. He loves you...
2007-02-07 10:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why? Because he's a man. Thats not an excuse either. I think they are programmed to forget anything important to a woman unless they benefit. Okay - maybe I'm a little bitter because my husband blew off my anniversary also. I suppose when he wants to use the sex toys you can always tell him your saving them for someone who actually thinks of you.
2007-02-07 10:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by kelly-il 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He didn't get you anything simply because he's a self-centered, selfish type person. This ought to be an eye opener of what the future holds for the two of you.
Mark my words, cause this marriage will go to the trash bin in the not to distant future.
2007-02-07 10:36:36 · answer #7 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset to my husband didn't get me anything but he took me out of town and had a good time I didn't get him anything either but we both were fine with that.You got your hubby something I think he should have at least acted like he cared......
2007-02-07 11:35:42 · answer #8 · answered by samwise25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u really need to get on his case an anniversary is really important in a relation even if you're not married u need to put him on punishment or something tell him if he doesn't buy somethin for your birthday he's not gettin anything for his and any other holidays
2007-02-07 10:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to be upset.. I forgot mine once and she got so upset that she slept on the couch and ignored me for a week... I remembered the next year tho.. its an important date for a woman..we can be so insensitive sometimes and take our ladies for granted
2007-02-07 10:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by road runner 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋