I'm reading all of these topics about what women want and one trend that repeats is a guy who takes charge. But we all know who the boss will be in the relationship right? I mean, it's not just me. It's a common thread these days. Women wear the pants these days. So please help me to understand this ladies, if you want to be the boss, why do you want a guy who naturally takes charge?
And please refrain from all of the "equality" stuff. We all know that PURE "equality" is a myth. Someone almost always leads. There is very little democracy in relationships.
2007-02-07 10:20:06 · 14 answers · asked by SmartAlex 4 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Same reason a high profile corportae man will pay a prostitute to be a "Dominatrix". He's tired of leading and needs a stress relief.
I myself stepped into the Manager position in a corporation and was very sucessful ... however, when push came to shove, and my dad got sick ... I realised the benefits and duty to be a homemaker instead of a career woman.
In fact, I've noticed that a true "Home Maker" (Asian & African & Muslim cultures) often acts as a dominatrix in all aspects of her life. Homemakers take all the man's earning and distribute the earning to the family members. She is the center of all the activity and nothing usually gets past her. So, the man is like the President, while the woman (homemaker) is like the Manager of the family. Each are needed for sucess ... and each play a very powerful role.
2007-02-07 10:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no desire to boss my man around, or to be bossed by him.
I fully believe that my husband and I are EQUAL partners...this is not a myth, it's reality at my house. That's not to say that we don't individually have our strengths and weaknesses, but neither one of us is "the boss". It might also be true to say that my husband is the leader in one area, while I am the leader in others.
I most definitely DO want a man who is comfortable enough with himself and our relationship that he can speak his mind when something needs to be addressed...But I also feel that it's critical that my man wants the same from me.
Wimpiness in a guy is unattractive...I think that you men generally think the same thing about us women. Don't you usually prefer an assertive woman, over a mousy, self-concious one?
2007-02-07 10:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing its just that many women want the feeling of securitiy, that a guy knows what to do, and when he wants something, he'll go after it. Now, I'm not saying that women want men to be in charge of THEM, no no. Just someone who knows when to take over when the time is right.
Did that even make sense?
2007-02-07 10:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by Silver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"We all know that PURE "equality" is a myth. "
What is 'pure' equality? Think in terms of mathematics: there either is equality - or there isn't. Two plus two is EQUAL to four. Different - but entirely EQUAL.
"Someone almost always leads".
Yes, one 'partner' may take the lead...and then, at other times, the OTHER partner takes the lead.
"There is very little democracy in relationships".
Bit of a gross generalisation, don't you thind? How can you profess to know all about other people's intimate relationships? Are you a gifted clarivoyant?
2007-02-07 12:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can't really speak for other women, but I like "take charge" men because I want a man who thinks for himself. If he takes a bit of initiative in his own life it means that he's looking for a partner, not a mother. I also like men who are natural leaders because it's fun finding the things that he's better at than I am and vice-versa.
2007-02-08 08:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by OhKatie! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And therein lies the latest reason for so many divorces. Women want a take charge kind of guy because that is sexually stimulating, but the reality of a take charge guy goes against everything we've been taught. And once the constant sexual stimulation wears off, where do they find each other?
2007-02-07 17:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by PDY 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know that I like to be independent and kind of take charge. But in a relationship, I really like it when a guy makes some of the decisions. I don't always want to be the one who says, "Okay, we're going here." I would like him to decide where we're eating, when we're going to hang out, or what we're going to do this weekend. It's nice to not be the one choosing things once in a while (for me it is, anyway).
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2016-11-26 00:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with a man that WON'T take charge!! Hey, someone has to wear the pants. He's just content to sit back and let me worry my @ss off about everthing.
2007-02-08 13:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by frigginhilarious 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't agree with your generalizations, there is not a 'boss' in my marriage. if one of us leads it's because the other didn't want to at the time, and it's different every time which one of us it is.
i have a guy who can survive on his own without me telling him what to do, when, and how; he takes it upon himself to do the dishes, start the laundry, suggest something to do, rent movies to watch, make out the bills, etc etc. perhaps this is the 'take charge' actions you refer to.
2007-02-07 10:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋