why can't we fall in love with somebody's heart rather than looks?

Question

why can't that be enough. it's so sad when you think about it.

yes, both, but that's not my question

Answer 1

Yes, I think thats true. I like people cause of their looks, hence the word attractive, they attract me. Though what really hooks me, is their personality or heart. I am attracted to their looks because when I first see them I go WOW their hot. Then, If their personality stinks then I'll call you, bye.

Think about this, You walk into a room with a really ugly overweight girl and a skinner pretty tan girl, who do you walk over to? Thats right the pretty girl. Why is this, this is that nature of Human Attraction, it's a phscological thing.

This is the nature of human attraction, sexual attraction and human pheromones. sexual attraction is an attraction to other members of the same species for sexual or erotic activity. This type of attraction often occurs amongst individuals of a sexually reproducing species, although in many species it serves no immediate reproductive goal – indeed, some sexual behavior among primates is undertaken as a social activity.

Human attraction is based on many different things. According to Darwin, it is based on the bases of reproduction. Those males and females that look the most healthy will be the ones to find a mate the quickest and be able to pass those traits on to future generations. This was called sexual selection. This theory talked about a certain individuals’ advantage over another due to reproductive advantages. Generally speaking, males tend to choose those displaying youth, fertility, and health. Females on the other hand look for youth and competitive ability.

A pheromone is any chemical or set of chemicals produced by a living organism that transmits a message to other members of the same species. There are alarm pheromones, food trail pheromones, sex pheromones, and many others that affect behavior or physiology. Their use among insects has been particularly well documented, although many vertebrates and plants also communicate using pheromones.

Answer 2

Infatuation with looks comes with the humanity that we all share. It probably arises from 'survival of the fittest'.

In the animal kingdom, there are all kinds of mating rituals, but they serve to assure the healthiest offspring and match the best possible mates. The strongest males are usually able to match up with the healthiest females.

People have the idea of the 'strongest males' and 'healthiest females' ingrained into their DNA. In the past, researchers who have found isolated tribes in the jungles and showed them 'shape pictures' of different people have found that native tribespeople, both male and female, tend to have a similar attraction to body shape as people in the developed world.

With looking at women, the tribesmen know what woman is likely to bear the healthiest offspring. She can't be anorexic, but she also can't be overweight. Tribesmen will instinctively choose a woman as 'most desireable' in a similar manner as most American men, when it comes to looks.

With looking at men, tribal women want the strongest, most virile and best provider. They associate this look with the looks that women in developed countries tend to consider the most attractive as well.

The idea as to what constitutes the most physcially desireable mate is instinctive. However, humans learn that more matters than just looks. Some of it is good (love from the heart), while others of it is a product of society (those who marry or form sexual liasons for money, which serves as a modern 'sense of security').

Looks are an important part of the process of attracting a mate. However, attraction (which is temporary) and falling in love (which is much more long-lasting) are two different things.

Answer 3

Hi Purple,
I have long searched for the answer to this question. My education has provided the following answers:
Physical attraction is the first response, and is programmed into our genes. That is the strongest drive humans (animals) have. It causes the human race to survive over time. [no drive to mate = no human race.] This is strongest when we are youngest.

That kind of physical attraction often lasts only long enough to force mating. When it goes longer it relies on the higher senses we develop over the course of a lifetime. (Intelligence, kindness, etc.)

When physical attraction is not the first reaction between people, it may take longer for deeper feelings (psychological attraction) to develop. Patience is the trait needed here. Physical attraction happens first because we can see people immediately. Psychological attraction (knowing someone's heart) takes longer because we must get to know someone over time. The longer we live, the better we get at learning to rely more on psychological factors in choosing a mate.

Answer 4

People these days just don't value the same things they used to. Like, love, kindness, caring etc. Most (not all) people don't care about that stuff. They care about looks. Of course, most people will say they care about kindness and romance etc, but that is only applicable if the person is good-looking too. That's just the world we live in. There are some people though, who genuinely care about what's on the inside. But, they are few and far between.

So, I guess I didn't really answer your question very well. But, its something I feel strongly about also.

Answer 5

Sex is the driving factor isd most relationships, and sexual potential is evaluated initially by looks and not by the content of a person's heart. Since we are driven by emotions rather than common sense, looks usually win out, since it indicates the potential fulfillment of a short-term need.

Answer 6

It's up to YOU to decide that you are going to fall in love with someone's heart rather than their looks.

And if the someone you are in love with IS looking at looks not heart - BUZZ!! NOT THE PERSON FOR YOU, Skippy!

FYI: I decided to date the person who eventually became my wife when I noticed that everyone at her table in the cafeteria at college was always laughing - except her. So obviously, SHE was the one making everyone laugh. Yeah, she's attractive, but it was THIS that caught my eye.

So GROW up OR go out with GROWN UP people.
Your premise is wrong, or can be corrected.

Answer 7

I fell in love with my boyfriends soul. And that's enough for me. I would love Him if he was the ugliest man alive. But He's really handsome :)

Answer 8

we fall in love with both ...the look attract us to know that guy the personaility make us love that guy

Answer 9

I love my looks,but hate myself as a person. Where does this leave me?!

Answer 10

i fall in love with both..