I told my husband that I dont feel comfortable with him anymore and I told him that I wanted to leave...he told me that he would hunt me down and that I wouldnt get very far because I planned on taking my 3 girls. Now I feel like I am staying out of fear and because I have no money or family nearby what should I do????
2007-02-07 10:03:04 · 24 answers · asked by Sweetheart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Call the police, press charges, get the hell away. NOW
2007-02-07 10:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can't just up and disappear with the kids if he's the father unless you want to find your a ss in deep sh it with the long arm of the law.
Do it the right way. File for divorce, like a good soon to be little ex wife. Get your child support awarded and then you'll be required to adhere to the goddamned law on visitation.
For the rest of these stupid dumb biatches out there she never mentioned anything about there being physical abuse or threats of violence. Yet others advise you to call the law on your husband. Well if you want a goddamned war on your hands you can do that and then you might regret it in the long run.
2007-02-07 18:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have 3 daughters, then make him leave. The girls need a safe home. If he has threaten them and you see what the law can do. You may need to get a restraining order on him and file for child support from him. Of course this will mean you will need to work too. But you all will be safe.
2007-02-07 18:12:01 · answer #3 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same situation.i have been with my husband for 7 yrs,and many times i have told him that i wasn't happy and i wanted to leave.we also have to kids together.3 and 1 yrs,he threatens me alot,he told me that another man is not going to ever have me,and if i wanna leave theres no coming back for me.i have no family or friends neither,well that lives close by,he tells me if ever i take his kids and leave that he swear that he'll find me.and the kids will end up with no mother and he will end up in jail,hes my husband,and also my childrens father.calling the police on him,i can't find it in my heart to do it.sometimes i am scared to,and afraid to make the move i wanna do.so just to let u know,someone else is going through the same as u.take care of urself and those girls.good luck
2007-02-07 18:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by lovegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do what I did ,.let him Make me live in fear. Call the police and file a restraining order on him , if he breaks it, have his a** picked up. I wish I hadn't of been so naive and ignorant , my life and my children's would have a lot happier. We all three really hated him because he was the rudest , hatefulles Bast*** that ever drew a breath. He made our lives a living hell, get his but of there before you and the kids get physically hurt.
2007-02-07 18:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel i want to leave my relationship of 8 yrs but my b/f says i cant take the girl and if i do his mom will come after me. The only thing i can tell you is if your truly not happy see if there are any churches or organizations that will help you get away .hopes that helps.
2007-02-08 02:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by fun mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly i'm sorry you are going through this, you should go to the police and make a report and put a restraing order on him,before he does somthing really crazy somthing that will leave you helpless.....but definately go to the police with the kids and all when it comes down to custody i'm assuming your going too want them and with that report it should help.do it now or you'll lose every thing don't be blinded by fear or love!
2007-02-07 18:18:03 · answer #7 · answered by xoxo-gina! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will be hard to say some thing about it, of course he can't make you stay, we all free people, you did no explain why you want to leave, are you cheatting on him?, have you asked go to marriage counseling?, if my wife said to me that she wants to leave me and take my kids for no reason, of course , I want to know why, she just can take my kids away from me just because she found another man.
if that is the case, have you consider a join custody for your children?.
it sound to me that you are not telling the whole story, think about your kids, this could end in a tragedy if it is not handled carefully and in all of you (as family) best interest.
2007-02-07 18:35:53 · answer #8 · answered by hector596 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Following is the national domestic violence hotline 800-799-SAFE (7233)... do NOT leave this anywhere he can find it and make certain you clear your phone from the "last number called" after you haven spoken with them. I am personally familiar with your circumstances and do not feel you should take it lightly. As a matter of fact... now that you have told him of your intentions his behavior may become more erractic, agressive, suspicious, and/or controlling. Get help for you and your daughters... ASAP. Bless you and I wish you well.
2007-02-07 18:16:35 · answer #9 · answered by wonderful1 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to find a new man who can and will defend you . This will change his idea of dominating the game and will eigther make him stop or reach his peak. If he stops great if not at least you wont be alone and your new man can definetly put a fight. Keep your head girl it seems like he wasnt your type anyways.
2007-02-07 18:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by chewy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh... you should definitely talk to the police or someone who can help you. What kind of hours does he work? If he works during the night, you could always pack up your girls and drive. And trust me, you can get pretty far in 5 hours. How close is your family? Try to get to them and talk to them about your marriage. They'll believe you because you are their relative. Get help and save yourself and your girls.
2007-02-07 18:27:06 · answer #11 · answered by blondywithabrain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋