I'm confused about what my friend thinks of me. I've known him properly for about three months, and we generally hang around in a group. Sometimes I get the feeling he likes me. He looks at me and smiles at me a lot. He often sits next to me. If I'm talking to other people he often seems to be listening to what I'm saying, and sometimes joins in with the conversation, commenting on what I've said. He'll remember things I've said to him, or things I've said when he's around from weeks before. He'll always comes over and talk to me when he gets the chance, and sometimes when I'm talking to other people he'll hang around me, as if he wants to talk to me but doesn't have the chance to. He's generally quite shy, and doesn't give much away, so it's hard to tell what he's thinking. What signs should I be looking for? How can I tell whether it's just friendship he wants, or more?
2007-02-07 10:00:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Didnt read it...will say yes...make you feel better....
2007-02-07 10:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by Buttsmear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The signs seem to be there he does but 3 months is a long time before asking for a date even if he is shy. However you know him better than me. Perhaps he needs a little push in the right direction. Is there not some sort of favour you could ask him that at first it wouldn't look too obvious and he was the most likely person in the group to ask this? Something that would just involve the 2 of you? Afterwards you could ask him to go for a coffee or a drink. After that and a chat you can let him know you really enjoyed his company. If he then doesn't take the opporltunity to ask you out best forget him........he can't be THAT shy!!!
2007-02-07 19:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess that you are interested in him because you have noticed the little things that he does that impress you. Don't you think you are already noticing the signs that suggest he likes you? If he is shy then he may not have the courage to admit it, but in his mind he is thinking how much he likes you. Perhaps you should ask questions about his life e.g. what he likes doing, what he is looking forward to, has he made any plans for the weekend? If you show you are interested in him then it would make him feel more comfortable and allow him to express his true feelings. It may not be a good idea to put him on the spot if you know he is shy because it would be uncomfortable for both of you, especially if it turns out that he isn't interested! Eventually, I am sure you will find out one way or another, so don't worry! Good luck.
2007-02-08 04:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by Chip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though you have put a lot of thought into it. I'm not there to see the situation for myself but from what you describe it sounds as though he might in fact like you. If he is shy like you mentioned it may be really hard for him to tell you that he likes you or wants to start a relationship. There is no harm in asking him yourself...just don't do it in front of everyone. Just mention it one time when he visits you at his house. Or if you like him in return you can always mention that too and see what he says. Don't worry over it too much though. Best of luck!
2007-02-07 18:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kathryn B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, this might be just the encouragement he wants. Make it general, weather, friends, shows, music and the like.
Move away from the group and continue to speak to him.
Don't steer the conversation, let it find its own rout.
If you have feelings for him and he is like minded there will be a natural movement to talking about each-other.
Best of luck Daddy Dave
2007-02-09 12:04:02 · answer #5 · answered by Daddy Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking as a reformed shy guy myself i'd say he has that old sick puppy syndrome. he sound crazy about you and from reading your question you seem a bit keen on him yourself. you seem a bit more confident than him yourself so maybe you should try and get him alone somewhere and have a little chat with him. give him a gentle nudge in the right direction and this should be enough to get him to ask you for a date.
when a guy is i bit shy it really is terrible for him (as i well know). i'd advise you to give him a gentle push. good luck
2007-02-08 08:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
id ask him one time to go out somewhere by yourselves,
like bowling or you calling for him and have a talk when you are walking somewhere it might be because they are shy,sometimes when you are by yourself with them they might open up a bit more seeing as there re just you 2 together,then you will know if its just friendship or something more.as they might not want to say something more when in a group.
2007-02-11 17:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by groovygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the real question do you like him??? If so make your move as he def likes you and sounds like a nice guy. Good luck
2007-02-11 17:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by Dimples 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will find the courage to make his feelings known when he is ready , it is good to be good friends first for a solid relationship
2007-02-07 18:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by susan will of the wisp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he likes you but he's kinda shy (like me), or hes a good friend
2007-02-07 18:12:48 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Brightside 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋