There's this girl who rides my bus who I can't STAND. She thinks I'm her best friend. Whenever I say something or start singing something, she always tries to sing along. It gets REALLY annoying. She's two years younger than me and is really sensitive... How do I tell her I hate her guts without making her cry in front of everyone on the bus?
2007-02-07 09:19:05 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Email her, that is the impersonal and not pubilc way to do it.
2007-02-07 09:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, obviously there is no right way to tell someone you "hate" them, so let's just say that you would like to let this person down easy. Of course the right thing to do would for you to be extra nice to this person and include them in your conversations, singing, etc. I mean come on, it's just the bus and it doesn't take up your whole day. The way you treat others is remembered by them long after you forgot how mean you use to be, so it's best to just be nice. But as long as that isn't an option, here's what you do:. I'm not sure how old you are but the easiest way would be for you to write your feelings down and give the letter to the person you dislike. BUT be nice and say I appreciate how you like to sing with me and be my friend but I would rather you didn't try to sing along with me, something like that.
Also, after that just move seats if you can if the person still tries to pursue you, but don't embarrass them please... keep it between the two of you
2007-02-07 17:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by J M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would give her the impression that you were her best friend, when in reality you do not like her?
To tell anyone that you hate their guts is an awful thing to say to someone. Maybe it's best that you use other words to express to her that you no longer want to hang out. Hurting someone's feelings isn't the best thing for you to do. Obviously you care about her or you would have done it a long time ago. Reevaluate the friendship and after doing so, see if you still want to end it. If so, kindly explain to her that you would rather be with your other freinds.
2007-02-07 17:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay maybe you will hate me too but since im older I really don't mind because I also have teenegers so here is my opinion honey...is okay if you feel this way towards this girl maybe she is taking a lot of your breathing space and that is why you feel you hate her..but got news for you...You do not hate her you hate that fact that she is trying to copy you and be your shadow...why I say you don't hate her because you consider the fact not to hurt her feelings in front of everybody sooo that tells me you are a girl that have a good heart after all...so now that I have analized you..."kind of shitty ha?" anyways this is my advice....write her a letter telling her that you appreciate her but you really need your space and that you appreciate her admiring you (that usually does it nobody wants to know that you notice trying to copy other you know) ... so tell her directly that you rather be left alone for a while and not to try to overwhelme you....and be direct tell her that you have not told her or screamed because you really wouldn't want to embarrass her in front of everybody. Tell her she should have her own personality and not to copy others...
Hope you could get that out of your way and if anything helps maybe you should analize why is it this girl needs your attention so bad...maybe check out what is going on before you make a judgement.
Take care and good luck!
2007-02-07 17:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by karaya6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have given NO reason for your apparant hatred for this girl. Sounds like she is a nice naive person. Especially to think that someone so hateful could actually like her back.
Maybe you need to grow some more room for LOVE in your life. I mean why distance yourself from people that like you?
Are you jealous of her or are you just TOO cool for someone a little younger?
2007-02-13 19:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by ITSakunspiracy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you can tell her that without making her cry. if u are worried about making her cry in front of everyone then tell it to her someplace where there r not a lot of people around. i knew a girl like that she use 2 follow me every where i just decreased the amount of interaction with her n use 2 be incredibly busy with other things when i was around her eventually she got the message
2007-02-07 17:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by eve j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you take a different bus to school.
Try to avoid her and maybe she will get the hint.
If she doesn't give her a polite note when you are off the bus and tell her that her company is not welcome and that she should find friends with a similar interests to hers.
2007-02-07 17:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is probanly just trying to be like you because to her you are someone very special. it is not unusual for younger kids to tag along,copy,etc. try having someone else on your bus sit with you so she cant. if she asks just tell her you are assigned something together in a class and need to discuss it. have her invite someone else to take your place on the bus. lastly, wish her well.
2007-02-07 17:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by Sheilah S.may49 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont tell her u hate her guts that is not good! do this sit her and tell her i am not ur best friend or friend and im really sry that i lead u on about being friends. try and find friends ur own age ur really nice but ur not the friend i want. say sry and just walk away
2007-02-07 17:27:19 · answer #9 · answered by dreamer_combsa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being hateful. She obiously admires you if she's trying to be like you. Take it as a complement. Maybe give her something to do while you sing, like dance. then you can laugh at her and its not hurtful.
2007-02-07 17:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by Perdido 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not tell her you hate her guts but maybe move a way from her on the bus or have a friend sit next to yo and then ignore her... but do not be a ***** about it
2007-02-07 17:22:33 · answer #11 · answered by Irie 123 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋