I am a 22 year old female, and I am still in college (junior level) and my husband has a very good job, so he'll be fine....but what about me-- I have no help
2007-02-07 09:02:28 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why do you want out so bad? This age and time of school, being a mommy, and a wife is going to be very hard to deal with. But unless he is abusing you in some way I think I would stick it out and don't give up. You may look back and regret making a decision like that when you were Tired, stressed, overworked, confused, and being pulled in 10 different directions. If you can make it until you finish school then you will not have to worry and maybe you will realize that you were just exhausted. Good Luck sweety, I hope things turn out the best for you .
2007-02-07 09:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want out? Look at all the reasons and ask yourself it this can be worked out. Unless there is abuse or infidelity, you really should give your marriage a second chance.
You also have to think of your children. What is best for them? And how will you splitting from your husband affect the rest of your college studies? Who will pay for the divorce if that's the direction you take?
If your heart is set on leaving him, though, then prepare yourself for some tough times ahead. Suck it up and get through the best way you can. That will mean getting a roommate, getting a job, and perhaps even leaving your children with your husband until you can get on your feet.
Once you look at the big picture (and you'd better), then decide if divorce is really worth it.
2007-02-07 17:16:32 · answer #2 · answered by mommyofmegaboo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been divorced twice so I will not preach to you about that, but, unless there is abuse you may want to think about sticking this out for a while. You have children & the children have no choice in this matter but you do. Dont split up your family. Maybe you should give some marriage couciling a chance. You have not been married that long, you are still just getting to know each other. If all else fails try to make a " Room Mate" type arrangement until you finish school & can support yourself better.
2007-02-07 17:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by tire chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you could speak to someone at the university or college that works in student life or counselling resources. They could probably assist you with housing resources or financial help.
Are you sure you want out, though? Two kids and college at 22 can make your hair stand on end. I've been there/done that and there were definitely some times when my husband and I both wanted to stomp on each other. Maybe you are just feeling burned out and need some breathing room?
Just a thought. No offense intended. I just remember the days of finals and munchkins in diapers and just cringe. We were burning the candle at both ends all the time and struggling with the financial picture, too. It was worth it but I'm amazed we survived it, frankly.
Good luck.
2007-02-07 17:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by Charlie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 23 and going through the same thing I share two kids with my husband and I am a full time student in college. I am sorry. This is a very hard thing to do. You need to wait until you get enough money to support you and your kids and then move out. Don't tell him until you go. He may try to take the kids away.
2007-02-07 18:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by Mary W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 22 years old too and i have 3 kids and ive been married for 3 years now and I would like to leave too. If you have any friends try to move in with them if they dont mind while you get on your feet. Maybe look into some organizations that might be able to help you also......good luck to you :)
2007-02-07 17:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the reason you want out? If it's because you feel like being single again or you just feel weird then you need to stand up be a woman and work through your marriage. But if he beats you, has cheated on you, or something along those lines then get out and get out fast and in the divorce take 85% of his money then you'll be set.
2007-02-07 17:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought about all this before you committed yourself to marriage. No where do you say that husband is abusive, controlling, womanizer , I don't see what your problem really pertains to. Are you jealous of your husband having a good job to take care of his family. I don't have sympathy for you, your feeling sorry for yourself if what you say is true. Why did you get married and have 2 children to begin with?..You want sympathy I'm sorry I have no sympathy for someone like you, you have a life that some women would die for. You need to grow up.
2007-02-07 17:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by Nicki 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First thing I would do is set a separate bank account and then stick it out for now until you build up a good amount and find yourself an apartment therefore when your ready to leave then you'll have a place to go for you and your kids. and get some public assistance's Apply for everything they offer they love single women with kids (depend what state you live in)
2007-02-07 17:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either stay and keep your vows or find a way to support yourself and leave, without your children.
Just because you no longer want to be married to him is not a good reason to keep the kids away from their father.
It seems like he has the better support network, so he may be in a better position to care for the kids.
You didn't cite abuse, so I figure he is not abusive.
Leave, get a job and have your kids every other weekend and one night each week.
2007-02-07 17:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋