I'm searching for ways to deal with the emotional rollercoaster of being unable to conceive. I'm 42, married for the first time (to the love of my life) 18 months ago, and I'm finding myself at times feeling just plain crazy over the whole thing.
What's been your most effective coping mechanism?
2007-02-07 09:02:18 · 5 answers · asked by celtiarose 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I have dealt with infertility. I totally understand the frustration and pain. I found the best thing was to talk to other women dealing with the same thing. It really helps to know that you are not the only one going through this really hard trial in life. The more open you are the more you will find how very common it is. I was SHOCKED to find so many women that I had no idea were dealing with similar problems to mine. We were very lucky and through a lot of persistance we were able to figure out the problem. BE PERSISTANT with your doctor. YOU have to be on the ball, because they have a lot of patients and you are only one. I also suggest you go to a Fertility specialist. They will know more of the tests to do. I hope this helps! As you can tell by my name it all worked out, but it sure wasnt' easy!
2007-02-07 09:12:13 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of 4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found a therapist who specializes in infertility-related depression (who actually conceived through IVF herself). It has been amazing. I have also started going to yoga. It really helps me calm down.
I used to let the infertility burn me up inside, but I made a decision to be open and talk about it with just about anyone. This has helped tremendously.
Are you in treatment? Most clinics can refer you to a good counselor and to other specialists who can help you, like accupuncturists.
Good luck to you on this journey.
2007-02-07 11:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by KM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be it's a blessing in disguise!? Are you interested in adopting or being a foster parent? It's very hard work but may be you're calling is to reach out to other youngsters... Much love for you! Hang in there and look on the bright side of things. At least you don't have breast cancer...?
2007-02-14 05:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to think about it just as a medical condition. Something you have to manage and treat but don't get emotional about it. I know, easier said than done but less you think about it the more likely you are to relax and conceive. Stress is your enemy!
2007-02-07 09:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by HIDY 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i was totally frustrated with ttc as if i use to see a women carrying a little kid i useto envy her but then i got a grip on my self and even stopped trying for it,and what u know just even a month later i got pregnant
2007-02-15 08:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋