My mother's husband is minipulitive, disrespectful, and rude. How can I get rid of him or convince my mother that he is a loser? He doesnt work then he got a job and he steals things from work and sells it on e-bay. He calls me a b*tch and he dissapears 2-3 days at a time, making my mother miserable. She says she loves him, so she won't put him out. What can I do, to show her what I see? (I already told her what Ive written)
2007-02-07 08:51:25 · 19 answers · asked by WORLD FAMOUS 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have already did what a daughter can do and that's tell her how you feel and what you see in your eyes. Your mother decided to marry this man and be with him through the good and bad. She have to be the one that want to let him go otherwise everything you say or do won't do any good. Because like she said, she loves him. A woman that's in love with a man will see and hear what they want to believe. Just leave her alone in her relationship with her husband and you be there for her whenever she needs you. That's about all you really can do.
2007-02-07 08:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Essence 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your mother knows what he is, she is just in denial telling herself that he's a good man and she loves him. Lot of women do that, it's disgusting to be on the outside watching them throw themselves after some sorry POS but nothing you ever say will convince them they should pick up their dignity and walk away. It's like they don't think they deserve better than what they're putting up with.
2007-02-07 16:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jadalina 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you have done all you can to have her see what's going on. Unfortunately some women prefer all the abuse to being alone, without a man.... sad but true. Not sure where your dad is or how old you are, but maybe you should tell her that u want to move out.
2007-02-07 16:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by marisanj 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Send your mom to a behavioral therapist. Maybe she needs a professional's help. There could by any number of underlying reasons why she is with this loser - dependent personality disorder, low self-esteem, etc. If the underlying causes are fixed, it will be a lot easier for her to see the light and ditch him.
2007-02-07 16:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He is abusive to you. Report him to your school counselor! He will have to leave. Hopefully without hurting you or your mom. That will be what happens next. Mom needs to wise up and take care of you and herself. Not that jerk.
2007-02-07 17:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you KNOW that he's stealing things from work, just report him....giving a link to the item he has on ebay. That should take care of things for you.
2007-02-07 16:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hmm. Tough spot. Your mother sees perfectly well what her husband is about, but she chooses to ignore it, or pretends it doesn't happen. "Love is blind."
I think ultimately she will probably end up learning the hard way. But continue to be her support.
2007-02-07 17:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
wow! is this your biologoical dad or step dad. Tell your mom if she don't correct the situation you're leaving and you'll go stay with another family member or your dad.
2007-02-07 16:55:38 · answer #8 · answered by madtyga2002 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is a big girl, let her run her own life. I'm sure when she is ready to part with him, she will. In the mean time, don't mess with someone else's love life.
2007-02-07 16:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by Josh 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Your concern for mom is admirable. However, it is up to here to wake up and smell the coffee. Be patient. She will eventually realize he is no good if what you say is true.
2007-02-07 16:55:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋