I am having sex problems in my relationship, I just had a kid and not in the move in sex what can I do?

Answer 1

Well if you've just had a baby it's normal to feel like this. Exhaustion does not make a good aphrodisiac. Why not get hubby/partner to get up with the baby in the night sometimes. if you are feeding the baby yourself you could try expressing some milk into a baby bottle. Then he can do some of the night feeds. Try to treat yourself occasionally. I know it's difficult with a baby to find some special time for yourself. It is not easy to feel in the mood when half your attention is listening for the baby to wake up. Perhaps you have someone who could look after the baby for you overnight to give you both some quality time together.

Answer 2

What a shame. I loved sex right through my pregnancy and couldn't wait to get back on the horse so to speak. One thing you need to sort is contraception whether you are doing it or not. Someone women are afraid of getting pregnant again. Also, sometimes, a woman can feel that its all about baby at the moment and not feel like actually being a woman - just a automated baby carer. Its normal but not so hot for you or your partner and terrible for the baby - baby has to learn you are not going to be there for every whim (within reason). It might help to get sleep - tough one with a baby especially when breast feeding. If you can't get sleep, get a hair do, new clothes and general girl-time and start to remember that you are a woman first and a mother second.

Answer 3

its so normal to go off sex for the reasons explained by previous answers but before the baby there was just you and your man. If you make him feel just as loved as before, because like it or not, we do become absorbed in our new kinder and can push the man out. A few loving words and reassurance go a long way to get past this temporary problem. Good luck x

Answer 4

Give your body time to adjust you have gone through a lot of changes both emotionally and physically. You will know when you are ready for sex! When my wife was pregnant we enjoyed a very full sex life but it took a long time after her giving birth to our daughter for us to get back in to the swing of things. Just take your time and don't rush yourself it is not a race as I said you will know when you are ready just try to relax and not worry about it and you will be back to having sex before you know it.

Congratulations on the birth of your baby

Answer 5

Assuming the relationship is generally ok, ask him to be patient. Broken sleep, a wobbly belly and confused hormones don't make you feel sexy!
If he is supportive to you, helps out, and doesn't pressure you, things will get back on track soon enough- make sure he knows that.
He will be feeling a bit neglected possibly, so try to find time for a cuddle, even if you don't feel ready for more.

Answer 6

thats fairly normal after having a baby,but remember babies can take over youre life totally,so make some time for you,also you and youre partner coz with out ye 2 funcition properly it gets very strained, explain to him how you feel, and there is plenty of ways to help relieve him without full sex,

Answer 7

Maybe it is time you changed your husband, if he is older than you maybe he is past his sell by date, get a younger man and then your mood will change. Any case relationships should be much more than just sex.

Answer 8

wow a kid congragulations you need to take care of your kid and raise him to be well good and smart..then if you and your husband are still pretty committed in having another and you guys are getting along then i say go for it have another baby but take your time its not a race.

Answer 9

i'm exactly in the same problem as you.after the birth of my 7mth old son i'm just not in the mood and sometimes so many weeks go by.but do'nt worry we're still normal!

Answer 10

its quite normal after having a baby not to want to have sex

give it time :)